goo Ranking had an interesting survey on stereotypes of single people in their thirties and looking for love, for both women and men. Note that this time both sexes voted in both the surveys.

Demographics

Between the 2nd and 5th of May 2013 1,088 members of the goo Research online monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 50.2% of the sample were male, 23.3% in their teens, 24.4% in their twenties, 25.5% in their thirties, and 26.8% in their forties; there was no-one older than 49 in this sample. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample.

As someone who was single for half my thirties, I can identify with a lot of them, in particular number 19 for the guys, which was one that did actually come true!

Ranking result

Q1: What stereotypes do you have of single women in their thirties and their love life? (Sample size=1,088)

Rank   Score
1= When they meet an unmarried man over 35 years old they find themselves searching for the reason why he couldn’t get married up to now 100
1= When a cool guy makes their heart skip a beat, the chances of him being married are high 100
3 Encounters with unnattached guys drastically decrease 71.7
4= They start planning for a single life 70.9
4= They are particular about their partner’s appearance, bearing, etc, but put their own character to one side 70.9
6 They no longer can meet guys who click 69.3
7 They end up judging on first encounters whether guys are Yes or No 59.8
8 They end up checking the ring finger of guys they meet at/through work 56.7
9 Compared to their twenties, invites to dating parties almost completely dry up 53.2
10 When they start a relationship they think “this might be my last chance…”, and put a bit more effort into it 49.6
11 They worry that there might not be any nice guys around the same age left 48.0
12 They change to prefering younger men instead of older 47.2
13= They concentrate their effort on their hobbies, work, etc at the expense of their love life 45.7
13= They stop visiting their parents as they have got annoyed with their “Not married yet?”, “You’ve not found a nice man?”, etc 45.7
13= Since they took their last break-up particularly hard, they have become cowards towards romance 45.7
13= When they go to a dating party almost all the guys are younger 45.7
17 Thinking “What kind of guy really does suit me?” they lose understanding of their own preferences 43.3
18 If they don’t take action themselves, love will not develop 38.6
19= Their friends stop introducing them to guys 37.0
19= It becomes troublesome for them to make moves on guys 37.0
21= They get depressed when they see Facebook friends posting about their marriage and births 33.9
21= They believe that their fated love does exist somewhere on Earth 33.9
21= They cannot take the plunge into marriage as they feel they want to enjoy being single for just a little while more 33.9
21= Playing cute and innocent as they did in their twenties no longer works 3.9
25= Despite their best efforts, guys who don’t want to marry don’t develop the relationship 33.1
25= They get depressed when they dredge up memories of past boyfriends and realise they can never again regain that feeling 33.1
25= When they go out for a meal with younger guys they start wondering “Could he fancy me?” 33.1
28 They spend more time with their mother than their boyfriends 29.9
29 Compared to their twenties, they look for safe rather than exciting guys 29.1
30 When love isn’t going the way they thought, they distract themselves by immersing themselves in work 25.2
31= Although when they meet married friends they do nothing but moan about being single, they cannot get into the mood for marrying 24.4
31= When younger guys buy them a meal they wonder if there could be a nuance of romance 24.4
33 As they pay more attention to their appearance than when in their twenties, bills for beauty treatment start to build up 22.0
34 As there is no time to waste, they themselves soon declare their love 17.3
35 As they have less confidence in their skin than when in their twenties, they try to select darker places for dates 15.7

Q2: What stereotypes do you have of single men in their thirties and their love life? (Sample size=1,088)

Rank   Score
1 Encounters with unnattached women drastically decrease 100
2 When they meet an unmarried woman in their thirties they find themselves searching for the reason why she couldn’t get married up to now 97.4
3 They are particular about their partner’s appearance, bearing, etc, but put their own character to one side 79.2
4 They no longer can meet girls who click 74.0
5 When an elegant women makes their heart skip a beat, the chances of her being married are high 71.5
6= They start planning for a single life 67.5
6= They end up checking the ring finger of women they meet at/through work 67.5
8 It becomes troublesome for them to make moves on girls 63.6
9 They concentrate their effort on their hobbies, work, etc at the expense of their love life 62.3
10 They end up judging on first encounters whether girls are Yes or No 61.0
11 Thinking “What kind of girl really does suit me?” they lose understanding of their own preferences 59.7
12= When they start a relationship they think “this might be my last chance…”, and put a bit more effort into it 57.1
12= Compared to their twenties, invites to dating parties almost completely dry up 57.1
14 They cannot take the plunge into marriage as they feel they want to enjoy being single for just a little while more 54.5
15 They change to prefering younger women instead of older 53.2
16 Compared to their twenties, they look for safe rather than exciting women 51.9
17 Their friends stop introducing them to women 46.8
18 Since they took their last break-up particularly hard, they have become cowards towards romance 45.5
19 They believe that their fated love does exist somewhere on Earth 44.2
20= Despite their best efforts, women who don’t want to marry don’t develop the relationship 41.6
20= Although when they meet married friends they do nothing but moan about being single, they cannot get into the mood for marrying 41.6
22 They get depressed when they dredge up memories of past girlfriends and realise they can never again regain that feeling 40.3
23 When they go out for a meal with younger women they start wondering “Could she fancy me?” 37.7
24 They worry that there might not be any nice women around the same age left 33.8
25 They get depressed when they see Facebook friends posting about their marriage and births 32.5

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