The forgotton passions of one’s youth


Here’s a sweet survey from goo Ranking, looking at the flames of teenage passion that one has forgotten as an adult.

First Love


From the 6th to the 9th of July 2012 1,016 members of the goo Research monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 60.0% of the sample were female, 9.9% in their teens, 12.7% in their twenties, 29.0% in their thirties, 27.0% in their forties, 11.0% in their fifties, and 10.3% aged sixty or older. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample.

Looking at the answers, a common theme in many of them appears to be undeclared or unrequited love, which is not an unusual occurance in Japanese schools, as far as I am aware. I was totally unaware of anything when I was in school, so I cannot give a comparison with the Scottish situation! Note, I’ve translated everything in the present tense as I think the answers read better with a sense of immediacy.

Ranking result

Q: What flames of teenage passion have you forgotten since you’ve become an adult? (Sample size=1,016)

Rank Score
1The heart beating faster as our eyes meet100
2The heart beating faster as we pass each other in the corridor92.7
3The heart beating faster as we talk88.3
4Waiting for the phone to ring73.8
5The heart beating faster as we hold hands73.6
6The first time we hold hands61.1
7The heart beating faster while I wait at the date start point for them58.5
8Watching them performing at their after-school club activities45.1
9Feeling lonely when I return home from a date44.3
10Being far too nervous on the first date43.8
11Walking home from school together40.9
12Panicking when their family answers the phone40.4
13Being unable to sleep due to joy and nervousness the night before the date31.3
14Going to have a look at where the person I fancy lives28.8
15Even on holidays, enjoying being able to meet them at club activities23.8
16Sending a love letter23.6
17Going out on a group that includes the person I fancy22.8
18=Faking a cold attitude in front of other people19.4
18=Going round to visit the person I fancy’s class19.4
20=Keeping an overnight date secret from my parents18.4
20=Giving them a hand-made present for their birthday, etc18.4
22Anxiously awaiting a reply on my pager17.4
23Regret that I didn’t make an honest apology when rowing16.1
24Everything ending when I can’t even declare my love at the graduation ceremony15.0
25Studying together14.5
26Accidentally on purpose phoning them13.7
27Being in the same team, group at the school sports, culture, etc festival13.2
28Getting their second-top button at the graduation ceremony12.4
29Us drifting apart because neither of us are serious11.1
30Having a top-secret investigation of the type of person they like10.6
31Appearing too neat and tidy, too much of a tough guy in front of the person I fancy10.6
32Pretending to fancy someone else9.8
33Secretly, frantically studying up on their hobbies, interests9.3
34Declaring my love on St Valentine’s Day9.1
35Waiting to swap back our swapped diaries8.5
36=Skiving off school together8.3
36=Being unable to declare my love once my friends found out who I had my eye on8.3
38Going to attend a school event that the person I fancy is appearing in5.7
39=Declaring my love on graduation day4.1
39=Changing my hair, fashion to match the celebrity they like4.1
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1 Comment »

  1. Steven said,
    September 24, 2012 @ 09:05

    Elaboration on #28, the “dai ni botan”, would help give significance to an otherwise arbitrary sounding act.

    #12 is something that younger people didn’t/don’t have to deal with now– that was always super awkward!

    And LOL @ #22! I love the Japanese word for pager– “pokeberu”. I heard that around last month for the first time and got a good laugh. I think the relatively high ranking for that really dates the people who took the survey. Speaking of the people who took the survey, why did teens participate?

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