Are you happy that you got married? graph of japanese statisticsDIMSDRIVE Research recently published a survey from April that they conducted into views on marriage.


Between the 14th and 29th of April 2010 7,764 members of the DIMSDRIVE monitor group comnpleted a private internet-based questionnaire. 52.6% of the sample were male, 0.9% in their teens, 10.8% in their twenties, 30.6% in their thirties, 32.0% in their forties, 17.3% in their fifties, and 8.4% aged sixty or older.

I think Q3 should be an essential point of reference for any journalist writing about konkatsu, showing that just 3% of single people are hunting for a wedding partner, and the other 13% doing something might just be asking friends if they know anyone unattached.

Talking of konkatsu, I found this silly little story about the Lucky Star cartoon-featured Washinomiya Shrine’s otaku dating event.

Research results

Q1: Are you married? (Sample size=7,764)

Never married (to SQ1 and SQ2) 30.8%
Have wedding date set 1.0%
Currently married 62.6%
Used to be married 5.6%

Q1SQ1: Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? (Sample size=2,934)

Yes 26.0%
No 74.0%

Q1SQ2: Would you like to get married some day? (Sample size=2,934)

  This survey
Last survey
Very much want to (to SQ3) 20.5% 26.4%
Perhaps want to (to SQ3) 32.2% 43.9%
Can’t say 24.8% 13.2%
Don’t really want to 9.2% 8.1%
Don’t want to 13.3% 8.4%

Q1SQ3: About when would you like to get married by? (Sample size=1,261)

  This survey
Last survey
As quickly as possible 29.5% 20.1%
Within a year 5.8% 6.5%
Within two years 14.4% 17.9%
Within three years 10.5% 14.5%
Within five years 9.9% 12.0%
More than five years hence 4.7% 5.7%
Whenever, not thought of when 25.2% 23.3%

The following question was from those already married or with a date set from Q1 (Group A) and those interested in getting married from Q1SQ2 (Group B). I’ll stick with the present tense in the answers.

Q2: Why did you, do you want to get married? (Sample size=6,196, multiple answer)

  Group A
Group B
Want to be with someone I loved 60.2% 65.1%
Can mentally settle, relax 47.2% 58.0%
Want to have a family 45.9% 48.9%
Want to be happy 33.5% 41.0%
Want children 28.1% 46.2%
Want my parents to feel at ease 25.8% 39.7%
Want financial security 19.5% 25.7%
Worried about old age 10.1% 28.2%
For public image 9.7% 13.1%
Social status, appear trustworthy 8.8% 9.7%
Want to do housework 5.1% 7.1%
Other 1.8% 0.6%
No particular reason 7.1% 3.3%

The next question was for the unmarried people who wanted to or who didn’t know if they wanted to from Q1SQ2.

Q3: Are you doing any kind of “konkatsu”, marriage partner searching activities? (Sample size=1,855)

Putting effort into it (to SQs) 3.3% 3.0%
Doing a little here and there (to SQs) 12.8% 13.1%
Not doing anything 83.9% 83.9%

Not surprisingly, those who wanted to get married were more active with their partner seeking than those who didn’t. However, there was very little difference between those with and without a partner; 17.8% versus 15.4% doing some kind of activity.

Q3SQ1: What kinds of “konkatsu” are you doing? (Sample size=299, multiple answer)

Introductions from friends 45.5%
Attending gokon group dating parties 25.4%
Doing “Omiai” matchmaking (including via internet) 22.7%
Participating in internet communities (SNS, Twitter, etc) 20.7%
Using a dating agency (including via internet) 17.4%
Participating in konkatsu parties 17.1%
Participating in hobby circles, etc 15.7%
Attending classes to improve myself 14.0%
Participating in networking events with people from other industries 10.0%
Attending classes to meet people 3.3%
Other 3.3%

Q3SQ2: About how much per month would be your limit to spend on “konkatsu”? (Sample size=299)

Nothing 27.9%
Under 5,000 yen 11.4%
5,000 to 9,999 yen 13.0%
10,000 to 19,999 yen 8.0%
20,000 to 29,999 yen 4.7%
30,000 to 49,999 yen 4.0%
50,000 to 99,999 yen 6.0%
100,000 to 199,999 yen 3.3%
200,000 to 299,999 yen 4.7%
300,000 to 499,999 yen 2.3%
500,000 to 999,999 yen 0.3%
1,000,000 yen or more 0.7%
Don’t know 13.7%

The next question was for the married people from Q1.

Q4: How long have you been married for? (Sample size=4,854)

Up to a year 2.7%
Two to three years 6.7%
Four to five years 7.3%
Six to seven years 7.1%
Eight to nine years 6.2%
Ten to fourteen years 16.1%
Fifteen to nineteen years 15.9%
Twenty to twenty-four years 13.4%
Twenty-five to twenty-nine years 9.2%
Thirty to thirty-nine years 11.4%
Forty years or more 4.0%

Q5: Are you happy that you got married? (Sample size=4,854)

Really happy 37.0%
Reasonably happy 36.0%
Sort-of happy 13.4%
Can’t really say 8.3%
Not really happy 3.1%
Not at all happy 2.2%

Happiness peaked between the second and third year, then it was all downhill until the twenty-fifth year.


Japanese views on dating - Page 11 - · November 16, 2010 at 09:11

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