Today’s bit of fun from goo Ranking is a look at when women feel there’s an ulterior motive behind a man’s actions. There’s no equivalent survey for men yet, but I’ll be sure to publish it when it appears!


Between the 21st and 23rd of June 2010 1,137 members of the goo Research online monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 65.1% of the sample were female, 8.0% in their teens, 20.4% in their twenties, 31.2% in their thirties, 23.9% in their forties, 9.2% in their fifties, and 7.2 aged sixty or older. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample. In addition, this question was for females only.

I think the premise of the question is wrong, myself – is there anything we guys do in relationships that doesn’t have an ulterior motive?

Ranking result

Q: What actions by men make you suspect there’s an ulterior motive? (Sample size=740, female)

Rank   Score
1 He soon starts touching me 100
2 When it gets close to the last train, he pretends not to notice 76.9
3 When he walks me back to my house and asks if he can use the toilet 75.2
4 He says he’ll make dinner next time 66.1
5 On my birthday, Christmas Day he proposes we meet up for a date 65.9
6 He keeps saying he’s lonely 61.5
7 When he tells me not to say anything to anyone about us going out together 46.9
8= The time to meet is late evening 45.7
8= He keeps praising my appearance 45.7
10 He suggested going for a drive along the coast 42.1
11 He doesn’t like it when I suggest we go out with a group of friends 41.8
12 He’s suspiciously gentle 37.3
13 He says he’ll send you home in a taxi 34.6
14 He recommends alcohol to me 33.9
15 Whatever the reason he soon opens his wallet 32.2
16 The restaurant he booked is dark with private rooms 31.3
17 When out shopping he buys everything I say is cute 28.1
18 He only talks about love 26.7
19 He has a perfectly set up plan for a day 23.6
20 He wants to meet on Fridays only 20.7


Ian · June 13, 2011 at 01:37

being the only male in my family i guess i can understand most of them.
with exception of
5,Why would you NOT want to spend time on a special day with someone you like?
9, You can’t even compliment her now days ? (unless it’s excessive)
12. Curious, how do become “suspiciously gentle” ?

    Lurker · July 26, 2011 at 14:39

    I think these make more sense if the question is read as “…they want to be more than “just friends”.”.

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