What your Japanese girlfriend should quit before marriage

It’s Sunday, so it must be silly goo Ranking time! This time we look at what behaviour people can (or would, or did) put up with from a partner when they are going out together, but want them to stop doing once they marry, for both men putting up with women and women putting up with men.

Demographics

Between the 21st and 25th of May 2009 1,082 members of the goo Research monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 51.4% of the sample were male, 7.3% were in their teens, 16.0% in their twenties, 28.1% in their thirties, 27.9% in their forties, 10.8% in their fifties, and 9.9% aged sixty or older. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample. Note that this survey was for the 556 men only.

Call me old-fashioned, but being unfaithful or staying out overnight without letting me know is a great big sign, regardless of how wonderful she might be with me, that things aren’t going to last, and hoping that she’ll stop is just fulling myself.

This reminds me of a survey from two years ago on marriage deal-breakers that you might want to cross-reference with!

Ranking result

Q: What behaviour can you put up with from your girlfriend, but want them to quit if you marry? (Sample size=556, male)

Rank		Score
1	Staying out overnight without telling me	100
2	Not doing housework	87.3
3	Being unfaithful	86.9
4	Wasting money, impulse buying	82.6
5	Only listening to what her parents say	82.6
6	Being out of touch	58.1
7	Differences in values	55.9
8	Not working	51.7
9	Keeping me on a short leash	49.2
10=	Poor table manners	44.5
10=	Not tidying up her own things	44.5
12	Going out to eat as a couple with other guys	44.1
13	Being too wrapped up in, spending too much on her hobbies	42.4
14	Her moaning when I work late	36.4
15	Sneaking a peek at my mobile phone	31.8
16	Not worrying about her appearance	30.5
17	Eating, drinking too much	28.4
18	Not talking much	25.8
19	Not getting up in the morning	18.6
20	Loving her pet more than me	17.8

Q: What behaviour can you put up with from your boyfriend, but want them to quit if you marry? (Sample size=526, female)

Rank		Score
1	Not working	100
2	Staying out overnight without telling me	91.5
3	Only listening to what his parents say	80.2
4	Being unfaithful	76.8
5	Wasting money, impulse buying	70.9
6	Being out of touch	61.9
7	Differences in values	61.3
8	Being too wrapped up in, spending too much on his hobbies	59.6
9	Poor table manners	45.2
10	Keeping me on a short leash	44.4
11	Going out to eat as a couple with other girls	41.5
12	Not doing housework	39.8
13	Not worrying about his appearance	34.7
14	Not tidying up his own things	33.1
15	Him moaning when I work late	32.5
16	Sneaking a peek at my mobile phone	31.9
17	Not talking much	29.7
18	Eating, drinking too much	27.7
19	His smell of old age	20.1
20	Forgetting things, losing things	19.2