A couple holding handsA great pair of surveys this Sunday from goo Ranking, the first is what things your partner does for you on a date that makes you happy, for both Japanese women pleasing men and Japanese men pleasing women; and second is what secrets that you and your partner have that you don’t want your friends to know, for both men and women.

Demographics

Between the 23rd and 25th of March 2009 1,043 members of the goo Research monitor group completed a private online questionnaire. 52.2% of the sample were male, 7.8% in their teens, 17.1% in their twenties, 28.2% in their thirties, 24.8% in their forties, 11.4% in their fifties, and 10.7% aged sixty or older. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample.

In the first question, it’s interesting to note that for men, I count seven answers directly related to expressions of love, and in the top ten another three answers are my biggest frustrations when they don’t happen, women actually giving us a hint as to what they are wanting. For women, expressions of chivalry seem to be the main desire; the lack of being happy about men making a move is perhaps more down to the expectation that their date will be all over them with little or no prompting.

For the second question, I think it is the Japanese way to keep things close to one’s chest at work regarding the opposite sex. How we met is one especially that my wife never tells anyone, although it’s not really that interesting or weird a story! I suspect that cos-play dates refers to dressing up in the bedroom…

Photo found on flickr and taken by sprookjeshuwelijk.

Ranking results

Q1: What actions by a woman on a date make you happy? (Sample size=544, male)

Rank   Score
1= She holds my hand 100
1= She locks arms 100
3 She tells me if there’s something she wants to eat 98.9
4 She tells me if there’s somewhere she wants to go 92.6
5 She expresses thanks (when I pay, help her sit, etc) 88.4
6= She says she likes me 73.7
6= She restricts her mobile phone use 73.7
8 She tells me if where’s feeling ill, tired from walking, etc 71.6
9= She wears something different from her everyday clothes 69.5
9= She applies herself to keeping the conversation going 69.5
11 She says thanks for the date at the end 66.3
12 She says we should go somewhere where we can be alone 63.2
13 She proposed the next date 58.9
14 She tells me if my hair is out of place, my zip’s open, etc 50.5
15 She puts her mobile into silent mode 44.2
16 She doesn’t talk about her ex 42.1
17 Her behaviour when paying 40.0
18 She tells me beforehand if she has a curfew 37.9
19 She pays for tea, water 27.4
20 She unfolds a napkin, wet tissue for me 20.0

Q1: What actions by a man on a date make you happy? (Sample size=499, female)

Rank   Score
1 He carries heavy stuff for me 100
2 He matches my walking pace 85.9
3= He sees me home 74.4
3= He walks on the outside of the pavement (sidewalk) 74.4
5 He prepares a surprise gift 54.3
6 He calls the waiter at appropriate times 38.7
7 He gives me advice when trying on clothes 38.2
8= He buys juice for me when my throat gets dry 37.2
8= He recommends a seat where we can see the scenery 37.2
10 He looks up for me how to smoothly change trains 34.2
11 He looks up famous shops and out-of-the-way places beforehand 29.9
12 He stands in front when descending and behind when ascending escalators 27.6
13 He checks out new shops beforehand 24.6
14= He advises me beforehand on what to wear (for outdoor activites, etc) 23.1
14= He arrives early at our meeting place 23.1
16 He opens and closes the car door for me 16.6
17 He tells me nuggets of information about places we go to 15.6
18 He wears clothes to match mine 10.1
19 He sends me secret emails during the date 9.5
20 He lays out his handkerchief for me before I sit on a bench 5.0

Q2: What secrets do you not want your friends to know regarding your lover? (Sample size=544, male)

Rank   Score
1 How I’m a spoilt brat when we’re together 100
2 Our nicknames for each other 47.9
3 It is a case of stolen love 35.4
4 How she’s a spoilt brat when we’re together 33.3
5 She’s a friend of my ex 31.3
6 Our relationship has already cooled off 31.3
7 How we met 29.2
8 That we’re going out together 27.1
9 I’m more deeply in love with her than vice versa 22.9
10= We do cos-play dates 18.8
10= There’s quite an age difference 18.8
10= I’m better at housework than her 18.8
13= She chooses my clothes 14.6
13= She pays on dates 14.6
13= Dates are always at home 14.6
16= We carry a lot of paired items 12.5
16= I haven’t met up with her for a number of months recently 12.5
16= She’s a friend’s sister 12.5
19= She picks my boxers 10.4
19= I haven’t actually declared my love to her yet 10.4

Q2: What secrets do you not want your friends to know regarding your lover? (Sample size=499, female)

Rank   Score
1 How I’m a spoilt brat when we’re together 100
2 How he’s a spoilt brat when we’re together 68.0
3 Our nicknames for each other 42.7
4 I pay on dates 37.3
5 How we met 28.0
6 We do cos-play dates 26.7
7 He’s a friend of my ex 20.0
8= I’m more deeply in love with him than vice versa 18.7
8= Our relationship has already cooled off 18.7
8= There’s quite an age difference 18.7
11= It is a case of stolen love 16.0
11= He chooses my knickers 16.0
11= I haven’t actually declared my love to him yet 16.0
14= I haven’t met up with him for a number of months recently 14.7
14= He doesn’t want to get married 14.7
14= He’s better at housework than me 14.7
14= I’m shacked up with him 14.7
18= That we’re going out together 13.3
19= Driving dates are always in rental cars 9.3
19= Dates are always at home 9.3

7 Comments

dshack · April 27, 2009 at 01:23

Funny contrast…the guys are all about affection, and the girls are all about consideration. I suspect if we were looking at results of who got lucky at the end of the night, though, it wouldn’t be guys that carry heavy stuff and research their dates’ route home on their keitai.

fun · April 27, 2009 at 20:16

“That we’re going out together”
I can’t understand this one.

Ken Y-N · April 27, 2009 at 22:49

fun, that’s people keeping secret the basic fact that they are going out!

fun · April 28, 2009 at 00:49

thank you!Ken Y-N
I got it!

Japanese Dating Pleasures and Secrets! | Cartoon Leap Anime Blog · April 27, 2009 at 05:43

[…] Source: Goo Rankings via What Japan thinks […]

Links Around Town 4 - Dumb Otaku · August 19, 2009 at 09:48

[…] Happy Dates and Lovers Secrets […]

How your Japanese girlfriend makes you happy on a date | 世論 What Japan Thinks · April 25, 2010 at 23:10

[…] Ranking took another look at a subject I also translated in 2009, what actions by your partner makes you happy, for both women making men happy and men making women […]

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

%d bloggers like this: