How often do you have sex with your spouse? graph of japanese opinion[part 1] [part 2] [part 3]

The answer to headline is “not very much, quite frankly. And just 17 times a year.”

The Japanese division of the drug company Bayer recently published the results of a survey into Japanese married couples’ bedroom life. They interviewed 103 men and 103 women, all currently married, from each decade of life from their thirties to their sixties, excepting men in their forties, where they only had 102 people, making 823 people in total. The fieldwork was conducted between the 9th and 12th of June this year, by means of an internet questionnaire. No information is available on how the respondents were chosen.

The main reason for this research is, of course, that Bayer is famous for Viagra (oops, hope that doesn’t trip your spam filters), so it wanted to highlight issues surrounding the condition known in Japanese by the initials of the English term, ED (I’ll let you work that one out yourself!), probably because it’s less of a mouthful than the Japanese term 勃起機能の低下, bokki kinou no teika. My dictionary suggests 勃起障害, bokki shougai, is the official term, but perhaps that second term sounds too negative – “malfunction” rather than just “reduced functionality” in the first case. Note that for reasons I’m not too sure of, a lot of the terminology is English loanwords, even when Japanese equivalents exist; for example, ED as noted above, then セックス and セックスレス (sekkusu and sekkusuresu, sex and sexless, to name but three.

As per usual for any bedroom-related surveys, no, I will not tell you where I stand (as it were), but instead relate a wee anecdote. The first time my mother-in-law came to visit our flat shortly after marriage, and as wifey showed her the bedroom, complete with double bed, of course, the mother-in-law asked where I slept.

A tip of the hat to Mari’s Diary to alerting me to this survey! No, I don’t know what the penguins are for either!

First, the basic sleeping conditions. Note that the sample size here, 603 people, is 73.3% of the total size; presumably the other quarter either sleep in different rooms or live separately due to jobs or other reasons.

Q1-1: How many centimetres are between your pillows? (Sample size=603)

Age group Distance
Total 66.9 cm
Thirties, N=167 54.5 cm
Forties, N=167 65.0 cm
Fifties, N=143 70.8 cm
Sixties, N=126 81.9 cm

Q1-2: What sort of bedding do you use? (Sample size=603)

  Total Thirties
N=167
Forties
N=167
Fifties
N=143
Sixties
N=126
One bed 23.2% 30.5% 18.0% 23.8% 19.8%
One futon 8.3% 9.0% 13.2% 7.7% 1.6%
Two beds beside each other 13.8% 11.4% 15.6% 12.6% 15.9%
Two futons beside each other 36.0% 35.9% 35.3% 38.5% 34.1%
Two beds separated 7.5% 3.0% 4.8% 9.1% 15.1%
Two futons separated 8.6% 6.0% 9.0% 7.7% 12.7%
Other 2.7% 4.2% 4.2% 0.7% 0.8%

Q2-1: On weekdays, excluding sleep time, how long on average do you spend together in the bedroom? (Sample size=823)

Less than 15 minutes 25.0%
15 to 30 minutes 13.6%
30 minutes to 1 hour 11.8%
1 hour to 3 hours 11.7%
More than 3 hours 6.9%
No time at all 31.0%

Q2-2: On weekends, excluding sleep time, how long on average do you spend together in the bedroom? (Sample size=823)

Less than 15 minutes 20.2%
15 to 30 minutes 13.9%
30 minutes to 1 hour 11.7%
1 hour to 3 hours 10.2%
More than 3 hours 14.6%
No time at all 29.5%

That makes the average of 41 minutes on weekdays and 57 minutes on weekends and holidays.

Q3: Other than sleeping, what do you do in the bedroom? (Sample size=586, up to two answers)

Talk 71.8%
Watch television 44.9%
Sex 29.2%
Shared hobbies 5.5%
Other 6.1%

Others include reading books, surfing the internet, massage, etc. Note that due to the smallness of some flats, the living room might also be the bedroom.

Q4-1: How often do you have sex with your spouse? (Sample size=823)

Not for over a year 33.9%
Once a year 3.4%
Once every 6 months 10.2%
Once every three months 10.2%
Once a month 15.6%
Once every 2 weeks 12.8%
Once a week 10.1%
Once every 3 days 3.4%
Every day 0.5%

The average answer was 17 times a year!

Q4-2: Do you think you have a sexless marriage? (Sample size=823)

  Total Thirties
N=206
Forties
N=205
Fifties
N=206
Sixties
N=206
Yes 22.8% 17.5% 21.0% 23.3% 29.6%
To some degree 26.0% 29.6% 25.9% 26.7% 21.6%
Not really 32.0% 32.0% 32.2% 31.6% 32.0%
Not at all 19.2% 20.9% 21.0% 18.4% 16.5%

Q5-1: How important is sex? (Sample size=823)

  Total Men
N=411
Women
N=412
Very important 15.4% 22.6% 8.3%
Quite important 44.6% 48.9% 40.3%
Not very important 29.2% 24.6% 33.7%
Not important at all 10.8% 3.9% 17.7%

Q5-2: Why do you think sex is important? (Sample size=295 men, 200 women, up to two answers)

  Men
N=295
Women
N=200
To make a satisfying relation with spouse 57.5% 66.5%
Because it expresses love for spouse 60.9% 56.5%
To satisfy desires 37.4% 19.5%
Needed to make babies 9.9% 9.5%
Cannot read this one! 6.5% 4.5%
Can confirm my attractiveness 1.0% 12.0%
Other 0.0% 1.5%

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