世論 What Japan Thinks

Today’s survey from goo Ranking is a look at what words from a girlfriend would pour cold water on a boyfriend’s thoughts of marriage. For this survey, I have translated in the first person, although the question wording was obviously in the third person. There was no equivalent female survey reported yet.

Demographics

The survey was conducted from the 24th to the 27th of December 2013, and 1,076 people completed a private web-based questionnaire. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample. The survey was for men only.

Fortunately, when we were dating my wife never said any of the below, although I’ll refrain from reporting how many she has said since marriage.

Ranking result

Q: What words from your girlfriend would pour cold water on your thoughts of marriage? (Sample size=men from 1,076)

Rank		Score
1	A two carat or more brand-name engagement ring would be nice…	100
2	I won’t do any housework	95.2
3	My ex would just go and do that for me	86.6
4	I cannot feel any love in this present	74.2
5	It will be best to just chuck all of your collections away	71.3
6	Actually, I’ve entertained an approach from Mr ____	64.6
7	I not interested in living anywhere other than a detached house in the city	63.6
8	Your family is a little odd	61.7
9	I’ll quit work on marrying, then can play all I want as a housewife!	60.8
10	I have no intention of having babies	58.9
11	(After trying my hardest to make a romantic proposal) That performance left me pretty cold	56.5
12	I don’t want my lifestyle level to lower after marriage	55.0
13	Is that all you’ve got in the bank? Save more properly!	52.2
14	As I want to show you off, we’ll need to have a flashy wedding reception	50.2
15	I’ve decided we’re having an overseas wedding	47.4
16	When we marry, I’ll hold the purse strings	46.4
17	Hmm, you plan to boast about that?	44.5
18	Hurry up and get promotion and a pay rise	43.1
19	I absolutely want to get married by __ years old!	42.6
20	I want to be kept fed for all my life	38.8
21	As you have no sense in clothes, I’m your stylist from now on	35.9
22	As you’re an adult now, why don’t you get a more adult hobby?	35.4
23=	I cannot think about marriage yet	33.5
23=	I’m not expecting great things regarding your earning power	33.5
25=	You’re a fool who is always chasing his dreams	32.5
25=	Don’t invite that friend to our wedding reception	32.5
27	I’ll come along if you get posted overseas, but you’re on your own if you’re posted domestically	32.1
28	(Regarding a pop star, actress I like) If you like her so much, why don’t you marry her instead?	31.6
29	I’m keeping all my salary for myself	29.7
30	I cannot picture myself being married	28.7