Thirtysomethings and love in Japan

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goo Ranking had an interesting survey on stereotypes of single people in their thirties and looking for love, for both women and men. Note that this time both sexes voted in both the surveys.

Demographics

Between the 2nd and 5th of May 2013 1,088 members of the goo Research online monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 50.2% of the sample were male, 23.3% in their teens, 24.4% in their twenties, 25.5% in their thirties, and 26.8% in their forties; there was no-one older than 49 in this sample. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample.

As someone who was single for half my thirties, I can identify with a lot of them, in particular number 19 for the guys, which was one that did actually come true!

Ranking result

Q1: What stereotypes do you have of single women in their thirties and their love life? (Sample size=1,088)

Rank Score
1=When they meet an unmarried man over 35 years old they find themselves searching for the reason why he couldn’t get married up to now100
1=When a cool guy makes their heart skip a beat, the chances of him being married are high100
3Encounters with unnattached guys drastically decrease71.7
4=They start planning for a single life70.9
4=They are particular about their partner’s appearance, bearing, etc, but put their own character to one side70.9
6They no longer can meet guys who click69.3
7They end up judging on first encounters whether guys are Yes or No59.8
8They end up checking the ring finger of guys they meet at/through work56.7
9Compared to their twenties, invites to dating parties almost completely dry up53.2
10When they start a relationship they think “this might be my last chance…”, and put a bit more effort into it49.6
11They worry that there might not be any nice guys around the same age left48.0
12They change to prefering younger men instead of older47.2
13=They concentrate their effort on their hobbies, work, etc at the expense of their love life45.7
13=They stop visiting their parents as they have got annoyed with their “Not married yet?”, “You’ve not found a nice man?”, etc45.7
13=Since they took their last break-up particularly hard, they have become cowards towards romance45.7
13=When they go to a dating party almost all the guys are younger45.7
17Thinking “What kind of guy really does suit me?” they lose understanding of their own preferences43.3
18If they don’t take action themselves, love will not develop38.6
19=Their friends stop introducing them to guys37.0
19=It becomes troublesome for them to make moves on guys37.0
21=They get depressed when they see Facebook friends posting about their marriage and births33.9
21=They believe that their fated love does exist somewhere on Earth33.9
21=They cannot take the plunge into marriage as they feel they want to enjoy being single for just a little while more33.9
21=Playing cute and innocent as they did in their twenties no longer works3.9
25=Despite their best efforts, guys who don’t want to marry don’t develop the relationship33.1
25=They get depressed when they dredge up memories of past boyfriends and realise they can never again regain that feeling33.1
25=When they go out for a meal with younger guys they start wondering “Could he fancy me?”33.1
28They spend more time with their mother than their boyfriends29.9
29Compared to their twenties, they look for safe rather than exciting guys29.1
30When love isn’t going the way they thought, they distract themselves by immersing themselves in work25.2
31=Although when they meet married friends they do nothing but moan about being single, they cannot get into the mood for marrying24.4
31=When younger guys buy them a meal they wonder if there could be a nuance of romance24.4
33As they pay more attention to their appearance than when in their twenties, bills for beauty treatment start to build up22.0
34As there is no time to waste, they themselves soon declare their love17.3
35As they have less confidence in their skin than when in their twenties, they try to select darker places for dates15.7

Q2: What stereotypes do you have of single men in their thirties and their love life? (Sample size=1,088)

Rank Score
1Encounters with unnattached women drastically decrease100
2When they meet an unmarried woman in their thirties they find themselves searching for the reason why she couldn’t get married up to now97.4
3They are particular about their partner’s appearance, bearing, etc, but put their own character to one side79.2
4They no longer can meet girls who click74.0
5When an elegant women makes their heart skip a beat, the chances of her being married are high71.5
6=They start planning for a single life67.5
6=They end up checking the ring finger of women they meet at/through work67.5
8It becomes troublesome for them to make moves on girls63.6
9They concentrate their effort on their hobbies, work, etc at the expense of their love life62.3
10They end up judging on first encounters whether girls are Yes or No61.0
11Thinking “What kind of girl really does suit me?” they lose understanding of their own preferences59.7
12=When they start a relationship they think “this might be my last chance…”, and put a bit more effort into it57.1
12=Compared to their twenties, invites to dating parties almost completely dry up57.1
14They cannot take the plunge into marriage as they feel they want to enjoy being single for just a little while more54.5
15They change to prefering younger women instead of older53.2
16Compared to their twenties, they look for safe rather than exciting women51.9
17Their friends stop introducing them to women46.8
18Since they took their last break-up particularly hard, they have become cowards towards romance45.5
19They believe that their fated love does exist somewhere on Earth44.2
20=Despite their best efforts, women who don’t want to marry don’t develop the relationship41.6
20=Although when they meet married friends they do nothing but moan about being single, they cannot get into the mood for marrying41.6
22They get depressed when they dredge up memories of past girlfriends and realise they can never again regain that feeling40.3
23When they go out for a meal with younger women they start wondering “Could she fancy me?”37.7
24They worry that there might not be any nice women around the same age left33.8
25They get depressed when they see Facebook friends posting about their marriage and births32.5
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