世論 What Japan Thinks

A nice and cheery survey today from goo Ranking, looking at when spouses feel their other half is neglacting them, for both neglected wives and neglected husbands.

Demographics

Over the 19th and 20th of April 2012 1,092 members of the goo Research monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 60.5% of the sample were female, 11.3% in their teens, 17.0% in their twenties, 28.4% in their thirties, 25.5% in their forties, 10.2% in their fifties, and 7.7% aged sixty or older. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample. I’m not sure how unmarried people were supposed to answer this one, if at all.

I’m only guilty of number seven, although my excuse is just having a poor memory for everything!

There’s a bit of a difference between the sexes regarding not wanting to sleep together! Top for the men, but just 12th for the women…

Ranking results

Q: When do you feel as if your husband is neglecting you? (Sample size=661, female)

Rank		Score
1	When I’m feeling unwell but he won’t do anything to help	100
2	When he doesn’t do anything for birthdays, Christmas, etc	95.2
3	When he back-channels in conversation but isn’t listening	88.4
4	When he doesn’t listen to me	77.6
5	When he won’t step in when the mother-in-law is giving me a hard time	74.8
6	When he says stuff like “It’s easy being a housewife!”	72.8
7	When he forgets what we talked about	72.1
8	When he won’t carry heavy bags for me	69.4
9	When he goes out for dinner without even letting me know not to bother cooking	67.3
10	When he doesn’t do any housework, child-rearing	53.7
11	When he leaves me behind at weekends	48.3
12	When he doesn’t want to sleep with me	46.3
13	When he doesn’t comment after I change my hairstyle	45.6
14	When he doesn’t want to go out as a couple	42.9
15	When he won’t meet my gaze	39.5
16	When he won’t say “Thanks for your hard work!”	30.6
17	When he treats me as his gopher	25.9
18	When he won’t let me watch the television programmes I want to watch	14.3
19	When he won’t close the lid after using the toilet	11.6
20	When he only gives me a little pocket money	9.5

Q: When do you feel as if your wife is neglecting you? (Sample size=431, male)

Rank		Score
1	When she doesn’t want to sleep with me	100
2	When I’m feeling unwell but she won’t do anything to help	78.2
3	When she is half-hearted with the housework	76.4
4	When she doesn’t want to go out as a couple	70.9
5	When she back-channels in conversation but isn’t listening	67.3
6	When she doesn’t do anything for birthdays, Christmas, etc	65.5
7	When she does separate his and hers runs of the washing machine	63.6
8	When she won’t meet my gaze	56.4
9	When we visit my parents she spends all her time sleeping	54.5
10=	When she won’t listen to me	50.9
10=	When she won’t say “Thanks for your hard work!”	50.9
12	When she complains about my salary	49.1
13	When the evening meal is all ready-made foods	47.3
14	When she leaves me behind at weekends	36.4
15=	When she won’t make my lunchbox	34.5
15=	When she forgets what we talked about	34.5
17=	When she treats me as her gopher	30.9
17=	When she only gives me a little pocket money	30.9
19	When she usually goes to bed before I come back from doing overtime	25.5
20	When she won’t let me watch the television programmes I want to watch	23.6