世論 What Japan Thinks

Here’s a fun survey from goo Ranking, looking at what flaws people think if they fixed they would be able to find a partner, for both women looking for a boyfriend and men looking for a girlfriend.

Demographics

Between the 17th and 18th of January 2012 1,048 members of the goo Research online monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 61.6% of the sample were female, 12.3% in their teens, 15.6% in their twenties, 27.9% in their thirties, 25.8% in their forties, 9.5% in their fifties, and 8.9% in their sixties. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample.

Thinking back to my own case, it was a combination of both having no self-confidence and not having the courage to make a move. There’s a few stories about that I could relate, but not in as public a venue as here! What managed to get me to overcome these flaws was getting my teeth fixed; I was still the same person afterwards, but perhaps I was more relaxed and less concerned about smiling afterwards?

Ranking result

Q: What flaws do you think if you fixed would enable you to find a boyfriend? (Sample size=646, female)

Rank		Score
1	Even if I find a nice guy, I don’t have the courage to declare my love	100
2	I’m poor at communicating with people	95.5
3	I put on an act and hide the real me	94.9
4	I have no self-confidence so only make approaches weakly	88.6
5	I get too nervous in front of guys	83.5
6	I get too pushy in front of guys and it doesn’t look cute	79.5
7	I act and talk as if I don’t need anyone	71.6
8	My ideals are too high	69.9
9	I can’t get interested in going out with guys with different views	62.5
10	I’m a shrinking violet at gokon dating parties	59.1
11	I cannot forget my ex	58.0
12	I’ve got my female friends so I don’t need a guy	57.4
13	I tend to dream about meeting someone and falling in love at first sight	56.3
14	My work, hobby time is more important that time for relationships	54.5
15	My heartthrobs are unrealistic partners only	53.4
16	I’m attracted by looks alone	52.8
17	It’s bothersome having to email guys	49.4
18	I’m surrounded by men hopeless at the physical side	47.7
19	My speech patterns are too rough and crude	46.6
20=	I don’t want people seeing me putting effort into chasing guys	33.5
20=	I cannot get excited when meeting guys	33.5

Q: What flaws do you think if you fixed would enable you to find a girlfriend? (Sample size=402, male)

Rank		Score
1	I get too nervous in front of girls	100
2	I have no self-confidence so only make approaches weakly	98.2
3	Even if I find a nice girl, I don’t have the courage to declare my love	94.7
4	I’m poor at communicating with people	92.0
5	My ideals are too high	62.8
6	I’m a shrinking violet at gokon dating parties	55.8
7	I put on an act and hide the real me	54.9
8	I can’t get interested in going out with girls with different views	49.6
9	I’m attracted by looks alone	45.1
10	I tend to dream about meeting someone and falling in love at first sight	43.4
11	My work, hobby time is more important that time for relationships	42.5
12=	I cannot forget my ex	38.1
12=	It’s bothersome having to email girls	38.1
14	I’m surrounded by women hopeless at the physical side	36.3
15	My heartthrobs are unrealistic partners only	32.7
16	I get too vain in front of girls and it doesn’t look cute	29.2
17	I act and talk as if I don’t need anyone	27.4
18	I cannot get excited when meeting girls	26.5
19	I don’t want people seeing me putting effort into chasing girls	24.8
20	My speech patterns are too rough and crude	21.2