goo Ranking recently looked at painful experiences people had when confessing their love to another.
Over the 25th and 26th of November 2011 1,074 members of the goo Research online monitor group completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 57.4% of the sample were female, 11.6% in their teens, 14.7% in their twenties, 26.9% in their thirties, 25.0% in their forties, 11.1% in their fifties, and 10.7% aged sixty or older. Note that the score in the results refers to the relative number of votes for each option, not a percentage of the total sample.
Note I’ve used “they”, “them”, and “their” rather than “he/she”, “him/her” and “his/her” to make the text more readable, I hope.
Q: What painful experiences have you had confessing your love? (Sample size=1,074)
Rank Score 1 I was sure the feelings were mutual but my advance was snubbed 100 2 Before I could confess, a rumour spread that I fancied them 97.8 3 I thought they were free, but they were already in a relationship 83.3 4 When I went to declare my love, I was so vague I didn’t get my feelings across 72.2 5 Against my sober judgement, blurted out my love in a drunken fevour 55.6 6 The day after confessing my love everyone knew all about it 51.1 7= I was nervous and just couldn’t get my words out correctly 42.2 7= I was nervous and just couldn’t get any words out at all 42.2 9 They said they’d reply another day but never replied 40.0 10 I thought they were single, but they were already married 25.6 11 I confessed my love, but was embarrassed and ended with “By the way, it’s all lies!” 22.2 12 Someone else spotted me as I was declaring my love 18.9 13 When I called out to them, they gave me a dirty look so I couldn’t confess 17.8 14 I sent an “I love you!” email to the wrong person 13.3 15 I chose a love song at karaoke and stuck their name into it, but they missed it 6.7 16= I came out in a fever so I couldn’t make it to the place I’d asked them to meet me at 4.4 16= I sang a love song I wrote myself, but it put the willies up them 4.4 18 I was so nervous when confessing my love that my clothes were dripping with sweat 2.2 19= I was seen practising my confession speech 1.1 19= I phoned the wrong person but continued to declare my love for them 1.1