Note: Tofugu wrote a nice article on this survey.
Correctly-addressing even close friends in Japanese is a matter of some complexity that I won’t attempt to explain here. However, iShare recently tackled the subject of names partners use with each other as you can see here.
Between the 20th and 26th of November 2009 484 members of the CLUB BBQ free email forwarding service completed a private internet-based questionnaire. 59.7% were male, 33.3% in their twenties, 32.2% in their thirties, and 34.5% in their forties.
One that I was suprised and disappointed didn’t have a category of its own was calling your wife “mother”. Many Japanese seem to adopt this as soon as they have a kid, so I’d have liked to have had concrete data on this.
The most popular kinds of mildly-embarrassing nicknames were adding “-tan” or “-nyan” after names.
We don’t bother with suffixes or nicknames in this house, and adding “-chan” after names usually indicates a request for something is coming soon…
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Q1A: Have you ever had a girlfriend? (Sample size=289, male)
|Yes (to SQs)||76.8%||59.0%||87.9%||86.0%|
Q1B: Have you ever had a boyfriend? (Sample size=195, female)
|Yes (to SQs)||82.6%||64.3%||89.2%||90.5%|
Q1SQ1: How do you most often refer to your partner? (Sample size=383)
|Given name only||29.8%||36.0%||21.1%|
|Given name plus chan, kun||27.2%||24.8%||30.4%|
|Given name plus san||8.4%||7.7%||9.3%|
|Family name plus san||3.9%||2.7%||5.6%|
|Oy, Hey, etc (don’t use name)||3.7%||3.2%||4.3%|
|Family name only||2.3%||1.8%||3.1%|
|You (don’t use name)||1.3%||0.5%||2.5%|
Q1SQ2: How does your partner most often refer to you? (Sample size=383)
|Given name plus chan, kun||31.3%||34.7%||26.7%|
|Given name only||24.3%||17.1%||34.2%|
|Given name plus san||13.6%||15.8%||10.6%|
|Family name plus san||3.7%||5.0%||1.9%|
|Oy, Hey, etc (doesn’t use name)||2.6%||2.7%||2.5%|
|Family name only||1.8%||0.0%||4.3%|
|You (doesn’t use name)||0.8%||0.5%||1.2%|
Q1SQ3: Do, did you have a special nickname for your partner that would be a little embarrassing if others heard? (Sample size=383)
Q2: If you were to be called a name by a partner, which would you most want to be called? (Sample size=484)
|Given name only||31.6%||26.3%||39.5%|
|Given name plus chan, kun||24.2%||27.0%||20.0%|
|Given name plus san||13.0%||15.2%||9.7%|
|You (doesn’t use name)||3.9%||4.8%||2.6%|
|Family name plus san||3.3%||3.5%||3.1%|
|Family name only||2.5%||1.4%||4.1%|
|Oy, Hey, etc (doesn’t use name)||1.2%||1.7%||0.5%|
Q3: If you were to enter a relationship, would you want to change the name you call each other? (Sample size=484)
|Want to change soon||11.6%||13.1%||9.2%|
|Once we got closer, would want to change||37.4%||34.6%||41.5%|
|Once we got very close, would want to change||10.7%||7.3%||15.9%|
|Not bothered when we would change||40.3%||45.0%||33.3%|