Japanese women dream of the USA
DIMSDRIVE performed internet-based research involving 5,274 people in September of last year to find out which country’s citizens would people most want to marry. It is not stated whether or not the people interviewed were single or not.
The Asia versus the West split is quite noticeable in the men, but really striking amongst the women. I previously translated statistics regarding international marriages in Japan that shows that the ideals being expressed here do not seem to be realised.
On a slight tangent, I watched the last episode of an NHK English learning program which features an English-speaking Western blonde angel that prods a clueless office worker along the path to success at her job getting a date with her transferred from New York colleague, the ideal tall, muscular, tanned, well-coiffured white executive. The angel’s job was done because the glaikit Misaki finally pulled her man.
Q: Other than Japanese, which country’s people do you think would be good to have as a partner (husband or wife)? (Sample size=5,274, free answer)
Rank Votes 1 USA 1,144 2 Korea 505 3 UK 442 4 Italy 370 5 France 344 6 Australia 218 7 Germany 203 8 China 197 9 Canada 150 10 Russia 120 Q: Other than Japanese, which country’s people do you think would be good to have as a partner (husband or wife)? (By sex, free answer)
Rank MaleN=2,468 Votes Rank FemaleN=2,806 Votes 1 USA 368 1 USA 776 2 Korea 297 2 UK 347 3 China 174 3 Italy 278 4 France 134 4 France 210 5 Russia 117 5 Korea 208 6 Thailand 99 6 Australia 145 7 UK 95 7 Germany 131 8 Italy 92 8 Canada 99 9= Taiwan 73 9 Switzerland 47 9= Australia 73 10 Spain 34 First, looking at the East-West split - or more accurately, perhaps, the caucasian-Asian split (I’m not aware of any black Western role-models in Japan) we see that for men, 36% of the total votes were for Western wives versus 26% for Asian women, favouring the West (I’m including Russia, with Maria Sharapova as the popular image of the country) by just over a third. However for women there is a marked difference; about 74% in total choose the West (over 40% for the USA alone) versus a mere 7.4% for the East, a massive ten to one vote for Europe and the USA.
Next, looking at the detailed age breakdown, it’s only in the teenage girls group that the USA fails to top the charts, losing out to France and Korea, and equal with the UK. For men in their twenties, American women are preferred over the second-placed Korean women by almost 60%, and the Chinese are back in fifth, gaining just over a third of the number of votes of the USA. However, the older men get, the stronger the charms of the Asian neighbours become, with the gap at its smallest being just a mere three votes. Similarly, for men in their forties and over, Chinese women cut the gap from a third to about a half of the USA score.
For women, as they get older (ignoring the over sixty bracket which has a very small sample size, so may be rather inaccurate) the attraction to American men only get stronger; in their twenties, Americans get just under a quarter of the vote, but by their fifties, it surpasses three in ten. Despite the charms of the disturbingly Harry Potter-like Bae Yong Joon Korean men do not seem to be particularly favoured by the middle-aged demographic.
These two main trends noted above are perhaps reflections on Japanese society as much as on foreign stereotypes. The younger men hold images of themselves as charming the sophisticated Western woman, but as they age (and visit dodgy hostess bars…) they come to realise that perhaps only Asian women could accept their typical Japanese behaviour. For women, after having been around Japanese men for many, many years, they too may come to realise that the Western stereotypes of politeness and chivalry are the only things that could satisty them in marriage.
Bonus points if you can name the people pictured…
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semperfit said,
June 5, 2007 @ 00:40
Hello, I am a US Marine… I have seen my share of the world. I do have to say I love traveling and meeting different people. the most freindly country i have visited was a toss between japan and australia. I love europe but it seems like if you are an american and in the military they just want to protest your presence… America has many people of many races and backgrounds I think it is safe to say we are the most diverse mixture of cultures and of ethnicities. I am a very easy going person i am very attracted to black women, I can’t explain it… well I hope you all have a great day!
ViolentAJ said,
June 7, 2007 @ 08:53
semperfit, I try to respect servicemen for the sacrifices that they make for my country. However, I must say, that they were only nice to you since you are not Black. If yuo were Black, the japs would have been intolerant of you. Japanese hate Black people.
Ana said,
June 7, 2007 @ 10:43
How do you know that all Japanese hate black people? What have you seen? Have you experienced this by every Japanese person? I know that some Japanese of the older generations like lighter skin because lighter skin was consider good I guess you could say because that meant you didn’t work out in the fields and if you worked out in the fields or did labor of course you will become darker. I hate the fact that you say Japanese hate black people with nothing supporting that statement.
ViolentAJ said,
June 7, 2007 @ 13:43
Just look up information regarding Japanese/Black relations, and you will find a wealth of information. Japanese people despise Blacks. It is a well-known fact. Asians = racist.
Ana said,
June 7, 2007 @ 16:23
So you just looked up information but never experienced this hatred you speak about from all Japanese people? So what do think about the Japanese and Black relationships?
ViolentAJ said,
June 8, 2007 @ 17:23
Japanese/Black relationships do not exist. Japanese and Blacks are enemies. I despise Japanese. I loathe them. The thought of sharing the same world as those yellow monkey pieces of shit sickens me to the very core of my being.
I have been to Japan, they threw bananas at me. Japanese people in America (both Japanese Americans and Japanese from Japan that come here to beg for white cock and spic dick) treat me like shit.
Fuck all Japanese, I hate you all, and I hope that you all burn in hell. Coming from a true Black man.
Ana said,
June 9, 2007 @ 02:03
I hope you get help soon.
Lee said,
June 9, 2007 @ 13:28
ViolentAJ,
I wasn’t going to comment on your comments because I thought you were just being provocative, but I have to say that I wish you wouldn’t post the type of foul language you used in you last post. It diminishes you and this site.
Might I suggest that the best way to deal with racists or perceived slights is to always conduct yourself in a dignified manner.
Turning around your last sentence: a true man or woman knows that dignity comes from within, not from another person’s perception of us.
ViolentAJ said,
June 13, 2007 @ 08:54
Sure. However, since I am Black, only Blacks will ever like me. All races can get along except for Blacks. Carrying myself in a dignified manner will get me nowhere, only changing my race will (which is somethnig that I am not about to do).
Windi said,
June 15, 2007 @ 14:13
Korean guys have bravado and passion. Great for when young & restles.
Lee said,
June 15, 2007 @ 14:39
Ana,
ditto.
I don’t think that poster is real. Most likely someone having a little fun at our expense.
Ana said,
June 15, 2007 @ 15:12
Yeah that’s why I stopped commenting
Waterica said,
June 16, 2007 @ 12:24
ViolentAJ,
That comment about all asians being racist is certainly NOT true. All japanese girls/guys hating blacks is also NOT true. I’m Carribean American(not trying to put myself on a pedistal, but I am not going to lie about what I am) and I can honestly say my closest friends have been asian! Infact, my “other father” (he’s pretty much taken me in as his other daughter lol!) is 100% Korean(not Americanised) and even calls me “his daughter”. His wife would always prepare food for me and we’d always have the greatest of conversations. There was a time when I had a very traumatic experience, and he wept because he was so angry anyone “would try to harm his daughter”. To be honest, the people I have been closest with were directly from their respective countries, not Americanized. My best friend is from Japan. Another of my close friends is 100% Chinese and came over to America maybe 3-4 years ago. Didn’t really know ANY english. He and I are great friends.
Stop saying the reason they don’t like you is “because I’m black”. Have you ever stopped to think maybe it could be something else? You may have been rude, may have offended someone, you could have been loud or noisey, maybe you were too overrbearing, it could MANY things outside of the “ol’ race card”. Sometimes it is because of your skin tone, so what? People will be people, and sometimes people are just stupid.
No matter what you may think, the world DOESN’T owe anyone ANYTHING. If you want something in life, you have to go out there and get it yourself. If you don’t want to change the black race, then don’t complain about anything and just deal with it.
I am sure some folks may be wondering if I have encountered racism. Yeah, I have. Did they think I was african american? Nope, most of the time they think I am latina(they even told me that), but that doesn’t stop it from happening. How did I handle it? I pay it no mind and go about my business. At the end of the day, what a racist says is an opinion. An opinion is just that, an opinion.
I know this post seems scattered, but I really felt like replying to all the stuff I had read thus far.
ViolentAJ said,
June 17, 2007 @ 17:25
Yup. They thought you were a latrina. Asians don’t hate latrinos, they hate Blacks. You don’t really count since you look like a latrinoid.
I am Black. Japanese do hate me. The reason why they hate me is because I am Black. I know we have to work for thnigs, but nobody is going hire me since I am Black, no Japanese girl would ever date me because I’m Black, and also, I’m Black.
ViolentAJ said,
June 18, 2007 @ 03:24
I forgot to add one point. You said that “sometimes people are stupid (racist)”. Well, first, I personally do not consider racism to be stupid all of the time. Also, most people are racist, especially against Blacks. You don’t know since you look like a latrina, but I am Black, and anyone that looks Black can attest to the fact that only Blacks will get along with Blacks. All races get along except for Black people. Especially in Japan. Any non-Black man can get laid easily, but a Black cannot even hire a hooker. Any non-Black race can automatically get a job, but Blacks will not be hired in Japan. Japan is heaven, but it is Hell for Blacks. I’d advise all Blacks not to set foot in that awful country (or anywhere else in Asia) unless you are forced to go and the benefits of going outweigh the suffering and hell that you will go through for your entire duration on your excursion.
PeaceJA said,
June 18, 2007 @ 10:46
I am sorry that you feel that way ViolentAJ. It’s interesting how we (Americans) feel that we have a right to express everything we feel so blatantly without regard to how others may be feeling. Sometimes, being as blunt as you were is “too much information” for some of us to fathom (it makes people uncomfortable because it appears you are about to go postal). After all, we in America do not like to even see a fishhead or its tail on the serving plate. What you might/could have done is just stuck to the facts (e.g. feeling rejected in Japan really bothered you. etc/). The stuff about the Japanese throwing bananas at you seemed a bit far fetched. So, what if Japanese people don’t like you? Even the Japanese Americans who went to Japan and who couldn’t speak English very well (used old fashioned Japanese language from their immigrant ancestors) were previously thought to be “mentally retarded” (e.g. “cognitively disabled” these days) by the Japanese people. What about the Japanese American citizens who got thrown in American Internment Camps during WWII and suffered blaming the American government for putting them there and the Japanese government for starting the War? Plus, if you did get rejected, would you expect anything different from a homogenous society? Do you think that German people would have treated you any differently? These are two cultures that had plans of taking over the world this past century. Nonetheless, if this were true and certainly, many people beg to differ, I would get on with your life and accept your perceptions and the embrace the resulting suffering it has created. Perhaps, if you continue to live with the suffering that life has given you and you choose not to run away from it and stop blaming those “____ Japanese,” then maybe things will change. I haven’t walked in your shoes, but I’m truly sorry it’s occurred. And, for that matter, doin’t worry, not all Japanese women are all that they are cut out or hyped to be. peace.
JPN 女 said,
June 18, 2007 @ 13:28
-ViolentAJ,
I am sorry you did not have good experiences in Japan. I don’t agree with Japanese people hate black people. I am Japanese and I certainely do not hate any race. You said you have banana thrown at you over there? What about me thrown raw eggs at me walking down the street. Or made fun of me by bunch of high school kids from a school bus? Do I hate American people? No, I don’t. I have Japanese friends who are married to black people and they have beautiful kids. I had black Americans who held jobs in Japan also. If you don’t have a degree and experiences, it is hard to get a job for any people who come to Japan if you are not Japanese unless you are trying to do ilegal low paying jobs.
I hope you can forgive and move on.
Lewis allen said,
June 19, 2007 @ 06:27
I sat and read some of the comments and it just goes to show how far we are apart in this world. No matter where you go people are gonna be different than you because you’re not them and vice versa. I have lived in japan as an Air Force person and I loved it. I would love to have the chance to meet a nice japanese lady again. A whisper of love is silent unless heard. we need love in this world so share your kindness and not hate. Pass it on……….
ViolentAJ said,
June 19, 2007 @ 07:57
Lewis Allen, I’d like to know if you are Black. Thank you.
Dereck said,
June 19, 2007 @ 17:40
hi, iam Dereck, african and ugandan, i like japanese ladies, if i get one ,i think iwill marry her, she must be between 18- 35, hope to hear from one soon , anly serious ones, and those who are able to take me to japan or come to uganda. my email is, dgaliwango@yahoo.com
Jupiter Moon said,
June 21, 2007 @ 14:44
ViolentAJ is a white guy posting as a black guy. this guy also post on another asian/black massage board, pretending to be a “black guy who hates asians” believe me on this.
ViolentAJ said,
June 22, 2007 @ 05:29
No. If I were White, I’d be too busy making love to thousands of Japanese girls. I am obviously Black.
I do not hate Asians, or at least not offensively. I like Japanese girls, but Jap[anese girls like any race except for Blacks. This makes me resent them and all of the whites, spics, pakis, etc. tat get japanese girls/wives. I do not hate all non-Blacks, I just hate those that get what I want and cannot have.
thatguy10 said,
June 22, 2007 @ 21:21
Violent Aj has a point, i also lived in japan, and for some reason, they really do have their preferences….and by all means, god help you if for some reason you fall under the non-preferred catagory…or you are a bit different.
they are very intune with pop culture and fads….and whatever it is that seems to be in fad, even though they personally don’t like it…. they will follow it….they really don’t have much of a mind of their own…unfortunately….and they tend to follow the group over themselves. so if the group doesn’t like you, or if you are a bit different or unique, you will have a hard time. like some damn computer program….take away that program, it fails to run on its own.
But the average “mo-joe white guy” has no problem! He can be the busted guy there, for some reason, he’s ok. They really do have “gaijin” complexities…eventhough they probably hate the white man just as much as the black guy, they have granted him access to a few more things…namely one: the pussy. however, deep down inside, they still hate them..it’s just part of the “fad”….it does suck to be a minority there. very heart breaking.
ViolentAJ said,
June 23, 2007 @ 17:36
Thatguy10, I commend you for your honesty. Japan is hell for Black people. I’d advise Black people not to go. Trust me, it is a heart-breaking experience. If you are Black, I’d advise severing all ties to japan/japanese people. They are nothing but demons from the pit of hell itself for Black people.
Jack said,
June 24, 2007 @ 17:24
Hmm..well, my black cousin lived in Japan for years and married a gorgeous Japanese lady. In fact, they are still married. He wasn’t military and had a blast in Japan. Hell, I know quite a few black men that went over to Japan and loved it and ever married Japanese ladies. Yes, their families love them and supported them. Guess it depends on the person since everyone’s experience is different. Most of the Japanese I know don’t have much experience with black people, but there’s a lot more white people over there so they interract with them more.