Japanese women dream of the USA
DIMSDRIVE performed internet-based research involving 5,274 people in September of last year to find out which country’s citizens would people most want to marry. It is not stated whether or not the people interviewed were single or not.
The Asia versus the West split is quite noticeable in the men, but really striking amongst the women. I previously translated statistics regarding international marriages in Japan that shows that the ideals being expressed here do not seem to be realised.
On a slight tangent, I watched the last episode of an NHK English learning program which features an English-speaking Western blonde angel that prods a clueless office worker along the path to success at her job getting a date with her transferred from New York colleague, the ideal tall, muscular, tanned, well-coiffured white executive. The angel’s job was done because the glaikit Misaki finally pulled her man.
Q: Other than Japanese, which country’s people do you think would be good to have as a partner (husband or wife)? (Sample size=5,274, free answer)
Rank Votes 1 USA 1,144 2 Korea 505 3 UK 442 4 Italy 370 5 France 344 6 Australia 218 7 Germany 203 8 China 197 9 Canada 150 10 Russia 120 Q: Other than Japanese, which country’s people do you think would be good to have as a partner (husband or wife)? (By sex, free answer)
Rank MaleN=2,468 Votes Rank FemaleN=2,806 Votes 1 USA 368 1 USA 776 2 Korea 297 2 UK 347 3 China 174 3 Italy 278 4 France 134 4 France 210 5 Russia 117 5 Korea 208 6 Thailand 99 6 Australia 145 7 UK 95 7 Germany 131 8 Italy 92 8 Canada 99 9= Taiwan 73 9 Switzerland 47 9= Australia 73 10 Spain 34 First, looking at the East-West split - or more accurately, perhaps, the caucasian-Asian split (I’m not aware of any black Western role-models in Japan) we see that for men, 36% of the total votes were for Western wives versus 26% for Asian women, favouring the West (I’m including Russia, with Maria Sharapova as the popular image of the country) by just over a third. However for women there is a marked difference; about 74% in total choose the West (over 40% for the USA alone) versus a mere 7.4% for the East, a massive ten to one vote for Europe and the USA.
Next, looking at the detailed age breakdown, it’s only in the teenage girls group that the USA fails to top the charts, losing out to France and Korea, and equal with the UK. For men in their twenties, American women are preferred over the second-placed Korean women by almost 60%, and the Chinese are back in fifth, gaining just over a third of the number of votes of the USA. However, the older men get, the stronger the charms of the Asian neighbours become, with the gap at its smallest being just a mere three votes. Similarly, for men in their forties and over, Chinese women cut the gap from a third to about a half of the USA score.
For women, as they get older (ignoring the over sixty bracket which has a very small sample size, so may be rather inaccurate) the attraction to American men only get stronger; in their twenties, Americans get just under a quarter of the vote, but by their fifties, it surpasses three in ten. Despite the charms of the disturbingly Harry Potter-like Bae Yong Joon Korean men do not seem to be particularly favoured by the middle-aged demographic.
These two main trends noted above are perhaps reflections on Japanese society as much as on foreign stereotypes. The younger men hold images of themselves as charming the sophisticated Western woman, but as they age (and visit dodgy hostess bars…) they come to realise that perhaps only Asian women could accept their typical Japanese behaviour. For women, after having been around Japanese men for many, many years, they too may come to realise that the Western stereotypes of politeness and chivalry are the only things that could satisty them in marriage.
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DerekJ said,
July 20, 2008 @ 08:00
ViolentAJ,
While I don’t condone the name calling, I think black passenger has a very valid point about your outlook. From the variety of your postings, I would have to conclude that your personality is anything but pleasant. I highly doubt that your feelings started when you had that bad experience with that girl and the person you say interfered in your relationship. Instead, I think you went to Japan expecting problems which became a self-fulfilling prophecy. People pick up on negativity and I think you likely got back exactly what you unconsciously dished out. I will take your word for it that you were subjected to some racism. However, instead of rising above, you sank into the muck. Getting along with others is not a pipe dream. It takes surprisingly little effort if you have the skills and presence to make it work. I don’t think you have given even a modicum of effort. The way you talk of people of other ethnic backgrounds is nothing short of shameful. I have seen your you tube videos, talking so poorly of others, throwing up Nazi salutes and the like….what is that??? You just posted of blacks learning to love themselves but isn’t it a basic tenet of human decency that to love yourself is to love others as well? From what I see, you have done precious little of that. If this post appears to be scolding, you’re right….it is. If the age posted on your Myspace profile is correct, I am more than twice your age. Normally, you would expect someone of my age to hold the kind of outlook you do…not the reverse. As a piece of unsolicited advice, take a step back and regard yourself and your words from the outside and with a neutral viewpoint. Can you honestly say you like what you see?
ViolentAJ said,
July 20, 2008 @ 12:21
DerekJ, I refuse to love those that hate me. The vast majority of non-Blacks hate Blacks. I am not a christian or a follower of any other philosophy that calls for loving your enemies or any of that other madness.
Loving yourself does not equate to loving others.
Other races attack us, so I decided to attack back. There is no shame int hat. In fact, IMO, there is shame in kissing the arses of those that hate you.
When looking at myself from a neutral standpoint, of course people will see me as the bad guy since I am aggressive. However, if they learned the full story, they would sympathise with me (if they had a heart, which most non-Blacks do not, at least in regards to People of African Descent).
I love what I see in myself. Others hate me so I must love myself even more. That’s quite alright with me. I’ll throw up my Nazi salutes proudly in the air. I’ve done it in the middle of Shinsaibashi. Sieg Heil! 14 Black Words. Fuck masuda. Sieg Heil.
ViolentAJ said,
July 20, 2008 @ 12:25
16 yr old, you’ll learn some day.
The majority of whites are not in the KKK, but most of them do look down upon Black People. The average japanese person would make the Grand Dragon very proud.
16 yr old, I’m glad that you like Japan for more than it’s women. Same here buddy. I am just saying that if I WERE NOT BLACK, then I would be banging a bunch of japanese chicks. I didn’t say that that was my only goal.
I did try to be a nice guy. People like blackassenger are the ones that just want to catch the clap from hoes and wear it as a badge of honor. Of course I enjoy getting pussy, but I tried to carry myself as a gentleman (until people started acting like jackasses).
I do have better judgement than you do. I know how to identify and deal with my adversaries.
DerekJ said,
July 21, 2008 @ 04:32
ViolentAJ,
You are not, unfortunately, someone who can be reasoned with. Consequently, I will no longer engage you in debate. However, I will close with this single thought: racial animus has existed throughout human history. The trend has been toward steady improvement, however slow. That is the result of people of all races taking the time to know others and declining to perpetuate hatred in the face of it perpetrated against them. That, my friend, is progress. Unfortunately, that does not appear to be your interest. It certainly is your right not to do so but you had better plan on being an embittered lonely man because few women of any race will be willing to put up with such constant negativity.
A little 16 year old said,
July 21, 2008 @ 05:26
Oh I already understand this world in which i’ve come to love AJ As do I know how to deal with my adversaries also. I just take my way and work it against those that hate me as where you take your ways and just shove them back at people, only proving that your indeed ViolentAJ, just a quick question, are you from Africa or something? Most of my friends I’ve made are white…in fact 97% percent of them are white my highest list of black friends would be 31/245 friends ive made in the past 9 years thats verrrryyy little black friends AJ. So can you honestly say that the majority of NON-BLACK races hate us!?!? You just give those racest bastards energy to feed on and I agree with DEREKJ this will be my last debate with you also. If you don’t want to find comfort in believing that there are other races out there that like you fine, but heres a thought…In the event that you are African or whatever just know that there are 3 African excahange student girls that go to my school who have made friends with not only white people but Asians, blacks and mexicans as well.
black passenger said,
July 21, 2008 @ 08:33
guys, guys guys, derekj and 16. y y y r u waisting your intelligence on that donkeys’ ass violent aj? swines cant appreciate pearls. and 16 year old, of course hes not from the african continent! how dare you even entertain that thought? thats degrading to africans. the guys just an idiot, leave him be. hes hopeless.
black passenger said,
July 21, 2008 @ 08:35
btw guys, BLACK PASSENGER YELLOW CABS will be published by december, by web international publishing. itll also be available on the amazon kindle. ill keep you posted
DerekJ said,
July 21, 2008 @ 09:25
BP, I’m looking forward to reading your book. Congrats!
A little 16 year old said,
July 21, 2008 @ 09:51
Ha ha ha! Okay Im sorry black passenger, I Already explained that, that would be my last post towards his thoughts ha ha ha! But anyway Im reeeaaally lookin forward to your book, cant wait to read it and congrats.
blackpassenger said,
July 22, 2008 @ 23:36
yeh dwight, you sound QUITE EDUCATED. how using your spell check. no one is denying that we negroes are the most dispised group on the planet, but dont dwell on it like aj does. thats what keeps african americans collectively in poverty: their dwelling on the fact that there are racist aspects in the US. all this while africans from other parts of the diaspora, especially jamaicans, go to the US and excel in academia, business, you name it. dwight and aj, stop the fucking whining and gtfoi GET THE FUCK OVER IT (ALREADY)!
A little 16 year old said,
July 23, 2008 @ 04:56
Well Dwight…Since this question is towards you I guess I’ll take a little step back in…What am I so naive about, what don’t I understand? That Racism is directed mostly at the black community? Wrong I already know this. I pay attention to my surroundings I know my history, and i read up on racism in the world, Most going on down south.So you say im naive partly due to my age, well I’m growing and learning more and more about these things. I know exactly what I speak when I speak it. I’m also quite accurate on what I say, being quite educated and participating in debates such as these whilst doing my research. and since you say that, that order thing with an Indian daughter picking a husband in reference of color, where would a light brown man fit in, as to where both his parents are dark brown? Would he be up there next to the white man or still the bottom of the fish barrel due to his parents being dark?
DerekJ said,
July 23, 2008 @ 14:10
I’d like to co-sign to BP and 16 year old. To make it clear, it is ViolentAJ’s incessant hate mongering that offends me most.
ViolentAJ said,
July 25, 2008 @ 04:03
Thanks for acknowledging the truth, blackassenger.
All I am saying is that the majority of non-Blacks despise us. This fact also holds true in Japan, especially when trying to bed down with Japanese women. The common Japanese women sticks with her own kind, and if she is willing to go with a foreigner said foreigner will almost certainly not be Black.
I know that I can accomplish myself financially. Socially is a different story (since I am attracted to japanese women, and sadly, must live amongst people of other races that despise me).
birdman1515 said,
July 25, 2008 @ 18:27
I really enjoy debates like these, because I like to listen 2 both sides, AND THEN put in my two cents.
Well Aj it is true that we are heavily discriminated against, And It sucks, I know. Hell, I cried the first time i found out that we were “different” from other people. They see us a people who curse, sag our jeans and disrespect, speak stupidly and gangbang. Honestly can you blame them? If that’s all we show them, then that’s all they’ll know. Im mean look at yourself with a critical eye….you’re showing them everything you trying 2 prove you’re not.
Now about Japan- I love those kooky bastards, but they are indeed racist. Don’t be surprised if you find one or two seats empty around you on a crowded, that’s right crowded, train (believe me, I’ve been there) But you know what? Not EVERY SINGLE person is. You say you love Jap women right? (Who doesn’t?) now what happens if you find the right Japanese Lady and get married? Does that mean that you’ll still have racist feelings towards a whole race of ppl when at least 1 loves you?
You’re a bastard; I’m sorry, but it had to be said. Especially since you said you like throwing up Nazi symbols. You know if you wore a swastica on your jacket or whatever and tried 2 befriend a real Nazi, they’d most certainly kill or beat you up ?! That’s because you’re flippin insane dude. You obviously don’t realize you’re endorsing something that HATES you, but yet you HATE the things that HATE you…..(does anyone see the paradox here?) You love Japanese women, but hate them because they hate you? You are the very stereotype that our fathers fought 2 disprove- you’re arrogant, extreme, and ignorant. We as a ppl are not all ignorant, but some of us are and its a fact, especially you. Excuse me but you need counseling sir, and you need it very quickly, because you are the type that’s likely to murder someone.
GET THIS ASSHOLE OFF THE STREET and PLEASE stop the hate.
sun set watcher said,
July 25, 2008 @ 23:38
VAJ,
you cannot seriously believe that being black will stop you from getting a girl there. THEY LOVE BLACK GUYS. Maybe you might have to go to a hip-hop club or something to find more of the ones who do, but it is true, they REALLY do like black guys!
A friend of mine who considers himself black, but who is actually mixed, like Obama, said he had a difficult time there. Looking at him, he could pass for Brazilian or hispanic. Now, has this made his life a bit difficult in Japan, yes it did. Was he discriminated on? Absolutely! Girls didn’t really have an interest in him. Except for the ones who had an interest in latin American culture. But when they found out he wasn’t latin American, they lost interest.
What’s the lesson here? Break ALL sterio types and preconceived notions. Culture, fashion, trends, races, tribes, all that sh*t has a way of dividing humanity instead of uniting. It’s fuc*ed up but differences have always been opposed. You could be the nicest person in the world, but if you aren’t like everyone else you will be left out, especially in Japan.
Onyx said,
July 26, 2008 @ 00:26
You see Violent Aj, this isnt so much of the popularity contest that you assumed it was before, if anything its a sanity contest. Survey say’s!! Your’re quite insane.. I hope you didnt start throwing up Nazi signs after i said you remind of a black Hitler.. (0_o)
black passenger said,
July 26, 2008 @ 01:57
yo birdman, i have been telling vagina aj, sorry, violent aj (as vagina aj is disrespectful to women) the same thing from june of 2007. im telling you, he is most def on track to commit something like the virginia tech massacre
DerekJ said,
July 26, 2008 @ 02:43
BP, sincerely I hope you and birdman are wrong about what may be in VAJ’s future. As birdman said, he would be/is fulling everything bigots think about blacks. What is sad is that he doesn’t recognize this. The guy def needs some counseling as whatever has happened in his life surely has messed him up.
I don’t know VAJ personally, so I can only gauge from his writings. What I do see is a disturbed thought process and I am concerned.
Onyx said,
July 26, 2008 @ 03:12
DerekJ said,
July 26, 2008 @ 02:43
*snip*
You can gauge more about him if you take the time to listen to his youtube videos and such im sure he’ll be glad to post you a link. At first i didn’t really have a problem with the guy, i was just interested to know how he became what/who he is now. And on occasion, challenge his opinion. But then it because clear to me that he was’nt an open minded person willing to hear others out and at least attempt to consume some of the information he was give’n from multiple sources. Then he flips out on me sending message on my myspace calling me all these names m $hit like a 6 year old.. LOL!. I really hope all this hate for Japanese did’nt stem from a bad sexual( or lack there of) experience.. But, in every post that seems to be him subject, how non black foreigners can get all the a$$ they want, and teh black man is left out in the cold.. If thats what its all really about, then he needs to maybe reset his priorities, then get counseling.
birdman1515 said,
July 26, 2008 @ 03:22
Ok, maybe I was a bit rash when I made my judgement about him being the type 2 commit a horrible crime against himself or another human, but his thought process is exactly the same as those ppl who do commit those crimes, which is 2 say HE DOESN’T THINK. How can a black person in his right mind actually support Neo-Nazism?! He really has problems. The Japanese have an island mentality which means they has prejudice against ALL outsiders. Me and my buddy (whom is white, and whom I love dearly, no I’m not gay) were both called “gaijin,” which roughly translates into “outsider” or “not Jap.” They are just a close minded ppl (as a whole, not individually) so it goes without saying that there will be a few who don’t like you, a few that hate you and a few that absolutely love you, it just depends on where you are. And if you think about it, that’s how the whole world is. And Aj you need a wake up call because if you were 2 go 2 Africa, you’d be considered a Yankee, and they don’t like Americanized Africans……just a little food for thought.
Again I’m sorry for sounding like an asshole, but I couldn’t help my first post because of the extreme ignorance that I read. B. Passenger, DerekJ, and Onyx, I concur, really I do. He’s just a young guy with no sense of direction and full of hate himself, that he cannot find the beauty in things that are quite beautiful.
DerekJ said,
July 26, 2008 @ 03:40
Onyx,
I have seen VAJ’s videos and they are quite disturbing as well (should have included that). Unfortunately, a lot of his angst does stem from a bad experience with a girl. I found an interesting passage of his earlier in this thread:
ViolentAJ said,
July 24, 2007 @ 10:49
Well、I was walking around Namba last night and I asked for directions from this girl. She said that she did not know English much but helped me out. We walked together, and she started rubbing my shoulder a bit. Ok. Something like that might happen back home. She’s just being friendly. Then, she starts rubbing my shoulder more, walking closer to me. We stop in front of AM PM and start talking. My little bit of Japanese and her little bit of English. She starts rubbing my chest putting her arms around mine, rubbing her breasts against my arm. This has to be a trap, I thought. I guess not. We exchange email and phone numbers. She was bloody hot hot hot hot!!1!. Shit like that never happens back home lol.
So you see, VAJ just wants a Japanese girl and when he doesn’t get one, he gets frustrated and out comes the hate. Don’t know what happened with the girl he describes here but if we can help the young brother develop some coping mechanisms, perhaps we can help save him from himself.
Onyx said,
July 26, 2008 @ 04:05
Ya i remember that. There was another post in here when he just came back from japan sometime late last year or early this year where he just says something to the affect of” i got Japanese ass, the race war is over” I laugh and congratulated him, but somehow re reverted to his original ways. I guess if he doesn’t get a constant supply of nippon-jin ketsu he needs to instigate a race war, starting with the Japanese.
birdman1515 said,
July 26, 2008 @ 04:13
You know what? That was quite intresting. I was thinking the exact same thing…..I think that its like certain guys I know back in the States-they’d be like “if a girl doesn’t like me, then Eff em,” only this dude is extreme…..Aj, look man, if you’d change something about yourself, maybe you’d get the kind of girl you’d like. Or just keep searching, whichever works best. They simply might not be attracted to you….its like that back home, in LA. If you are attracted 2 one girl, but not another, does that make you inherently racist? (Of course YOU are, but I’m making a generalization here) I honestly have no problem finding women here. Here are some tips:
TRY 2 be as nice as possible- if they don’t return the favor, keep it moving, but keep your head up.
Use polite japanese- instead of saying thanks, use domo arigatogozaimasu. They really appriciate it.
Try hip hop clubs, such as Onyx requested. You are most definately guaranteed 2 find someone there who is intrested in you.
If and when you do find that special someone, TRY not 2 be (oh what’s the word? Hmm, oh yea) an Asshole. They pick up on jerk from a mile away.
Now if all else fails you can do one of 3 things 1.LEAVE THE COUNTRY. 2. Shut up and deal with it. 3. find yourself another asian woman (i.e. Chinese, korean, etc) they are there, you just have 2 notice the subtle differences. But then again you are not a subtle man, are you?
ViolentAJ said,
July 26, 2008 @ 04:15
Birdman, I am not trying to befriend non-Black nazis, I’m not stupid lol. I’m starting my own Nazis for Black People.
Blackassenger, I am not going to do any type of V-tech you moron. You’re still full of shite.
Sunset, the japs liked him because japs like latrinos. Japanese generally do not like Blacks. Even in hiphop clubs they’ll dance with whites, latrinos, pakis, etc. much faster than they’ll do so with a Black Person.
Onyx, you attacked me first so I attacked back. Japanese outcast Blacks on all levels of society. sex is just the most overt, but it is a part of a larger-scale issue.
I am glad that you people are able to admit to some of the facts though. However, you people seem to take a “let’s live with it approach”. I say no to that. That’s not going to get us anywhere (unless you believe in some god or something). I believe that Blacks must withdraw and focus on ourselves.
ViolentAJ said,
July 26, 2008 @ 04:25
All of that “trying to break stereotypes” doesn’t really work when:
a) They don’t even truly respect you as human and
b) The zionist jew-controlled media is constantly spreading negativity on a worldwide basis.
I tried being a nice guy, but the japs still showed no love. I am sure that Black people notice that whites and latrinos are generaly the same way (meaning that they do not respect Black People even when they show that they are decent, and in many cases will hate you more when you break the stereotypical norm thinking that we as Black People should simply take our “rightful” place at the bottom).
“Anybody reading this needs to understand the pecking order in Japan and in fact all of Asia: Japanese on top (of course), followed by the varying degrees of white, then the other various Asians in the region who have white skin, on down to blacks at the bottom.”