Japanese women dream of the USA
DIMSDRIVE performed internet-based research involving 5,274 people in September of last year to find out which country’s citizens would people most want to marry. It is not stated whether or not the people interviewed were single or not.
The Asia versus the West split is quite noticeable in the men, but really striking amongst the women. I previously translated statistics regarding international marriages in Japan that shows that the ideals being expressed here do not seem to be realised.
On a slight tangent, I watched the last episode of an NHK English learning program which features an English-speaking Western blonde angel that prods a clueless office worker along the path to success at her job getting a date with her transferred from New York colleague, the ideal tall, muscular, tanned, well-coiffured white executive. The angel’s job was done because the glaikit Misaki finally pulled her man.
Q: Other than Japanese, which country’s people do you think would be good to have as a partner (husband or wife)? (Sample size=5,274, free answer)
Rank Votes 1 USA 1,144 2 Korea 505 3 UK 442 4 Italy 370 5 France 344 6 Australia 218 7 Germany 203 8 China 197 9 Canada 150 10 Russia 120 Q: Other than Japanese, which country’s people do you think would be good to have as a partner (husband or wife)? (By sex, free answer)
Rank MaleN=2,468 Votes Rank FemaleN=2,806 Votes 1 USA 368 1 USA 776 2 Korea 297 2 UK 347 3 China 174 3 Italy 278 4 France 134 4 France 210 5 Russia 117 5 Korea 208 6 Thailand 99 6 Australia 145 7 UK 95 7 Germany 131 8 Italy 92 8 Canada 99 9= Taiwan 73 9 Switzerland 47 9= Australia 73 10 Spain 34 First, looking at the East-West split - or more accurately, perhaps, the caucasian-Asian split (I’m not aware of any black Western role-models in Japan) we see that for men, 36% of the total votes were for Western wives versus 26% for Asian women, favouring the West (I’m including Russia, with Maria Sharapova as the popular image of the country) by just over a third. However for women there is a marked difference; about 74% in total choose the West (over 40% for the USA alone) versus a mere 7.4% for the East, a massive ten to one vote for Europe and the USA.
Next, looking at the detailed age breakdown, it’s only in the teenage girls group that the USA fails to top the charts, losing out to France and Korea, and equal with the UK. For men in their twenties, American women are preferred over the second-placed Korean women by almost 60%, and the Chinese are back in fifth, gaining just over a third of the number of votes of the USA. However, the older men get, the stronger the charms of the Asian neighbours become, with the gap at its smallest being just a mere three votes. Similarly, for men in their forties and over, Chinese women cut the gap from a third to about a half of the USA score.
For women, as they get older (ignoring the over sixty bracket which has a very small sample size, so may be rather inaccurate) the attraction to American men only get stronger; in their twenties, Americans get just under a quarter of the vote, but by their fifties, it surpasses three in ten. Despite the charms of the disturbingly Harry Potter-like Bae Yong Joon Korean men do not seem to be particularly favoured by the middle-aged demographic.
These two main trends noted above are perhaps reflections on Japanese society as much as on foreign stereotypes. The younger men hold images of themselves as charming the sophisticated Western woman, but as they age (and visit dodgy hostess bars…) they come to realise that perhaps only Asian women could accept their typical Japanese behaviour. For women, after having been around Japanese men for many, many years, they too may come to realise that the Western stereotypes of politeness and chivalry are the only things that could satisty them in marriage.
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Onyx said,
January 25, 2008 @ 04:29
Killa Cam said,
January 25, 2008 @ 03:20
*snip*
Trust me man, it dosent matter how old you are. get a Suit, or, at least go try one one, then you want to get one anyways. I never used to be a suit wearing guy, buti after i got ma first one, i barely ever go out without one on. Bars are one thing you dont need a suit for that shit, but in a club, all eyes r on u.
SchwarzeFaust said,
January 25, 2008 @ 11:38
Killa Cam, since you are so deep into stereotypes, don’t you go to church? All Black brothaz goto church right, therefore, you must have a suit.
I’m just being facetious. Anyway, you are doing what many Blacks do. You are limiting yourself just like other races do us. If I could have brought my suits to Japan, I would have just to look nice. I don’t want to hit a club in a suit (since people spill drinks), but I wouldn’t mind strolling around Shinsaibashi in a suit so that I can kick some arse in style. I was 19 when I first went there and I’m 20 now.
Japan is a totally different thing. London is a different environment. Southeast asians are a bit more open to dating Blacks than northeast asians, and chinese in London are a bit different. If you ever goto China, you’ll be in for a horrid surprise. Japan is nicer to Blacks by orders of magnitude, and they still hate us!
Killa Cam said,
January 26, 2008 @ 03:50
Schwarzefaust what do u mean by me being deep into stereotypes i just wear what i like to wear i couldn’t care less if i fall into the stereotype category or not i do what i want to do.
As for going to church I haven’t even entered a church yet. The only time i wore a suit is when i had a presentation to do in university a couple of weeks ago which i didn’t really like but had to be done.
I admit if i would have wore a suit i probably would have attracted different type of girls that are currently attracted to me now but I am fine with hoes not as if im looking for a relationship or something.
Onyx said,
January 26, 2008 @ 08:27
lol suits pull hoes too.
Killa Cam said,
January 26, 2008 @ 22:45
Schwarzefaust how can you say that the Japanese look down on blacks when most of the young generation embrace the black hip hop culture. I have even seen videos in youtube where girls are trying to tan them selfs to look more brown and even some Japanese guys having their hair braided and even pulling an afro.
If they were as racist as you say would they have listened to hip hop?
Speaking of racism have you ever been to Germany? That is the real meaning of racism, people can call you a ni$$ger in front of your face and even assault you because of your colour.
Anyway in London if your a fugly black man and have no money you are going to struggle to get laid which is a fact no matter how smart you are which I think is probably the same in Japan.
Peter said,
January 31, 2008 @ 13:36
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From Ken Y-N: Please do not post email addresses publically!
blackpassenger said,
February 11, 2008 @ 18:33
HELLO SAN i have never ever had sex with a prostitute, but in my over 6.5 years of living in japan (april 18 will be 7 years), i have had sexual relations with 60 women and have contracted chlamydia about six times. in fact, i contracted chlamydia from my very first sexual experience here, a week after i arrived. she was the manager of the language school which paid my way to japan. the full story is on myspace. chlamydia is an epidemic in japan, especially in the high school to mid twenties age group. unlike western women, japanese woman dont get annual pap smears, they dont see a gynacologist for check ups. and theres no sex ed in schools. it was alway i who had to inform them that they were carriers of the disease.
so dont hate because im here living your dream. dont envy me. get some communications skills and come to japan and see for yourserlf. it is total bs that japanese women (and i mean shockingly beautiful women) dont dig black men. thats crap. DONT MAKE ME HAVE TO SEND YOU SOME VIDEOS.
and fyi, ive been getting an annual aids test since 1986. so Im not spreading stds in asia, im contracting them. one of my girls (again, TOMOKO’s story is on myspace )had chlamydia for 5 years. and thanks to me she got it treated. i had to inform her that her untreated chlamydia could be the cause of her bleeding during sex.
i know you maybe racist and dont like us negroes philandering with your prized women. but get used to it, they love us. all my african-american, african and jamaican friends here can definitely attest to that. i moved to japan because im a sex addict with a yellow fetish and you will be wanking and living vicariously through me when you read my book. just hold on a couple more months. just say the word and i will be happy to send you some phone videos. (yeh, dont you wish)
blackpassenger said,
February 11, 2008 @ 18:52
oh, and please note. the 60 women with whom ive had sexual relation in japan were not one night stands, but serial concurrent relationships. and most of them spoke little or no english, most had never experienced a foreigner before and 5 were virgins. in fact one virgin was 36 years old. virgins in their 20s 30s are common in japan. most of these women i met on the train, some were my students and two i met at clubs. two were koreans, one korean japanese. the korean one had silicone implants, so i dropped her real fast.
its more difficult for us Negroes in korea. A) korean society is 25% christian, so they place high emphasis on virginity. so many korean women get hymen replacement surgery before getting married. japan on the other hand is not a christian society and view sex differently. in fact, in japanese mythology, the island was created after two gods had sex. so japan’s take on sex is completely different. while korean dudes will kick your ass for looking at thier women, japanese men will ask you, “so, have you had a japanese girl yet?”
read my book and weep, mr HELLO.
blackpassenger said,
February 11, 2008 @ 22:21
Helllllllllloooooooo mr helllooooooo from china. are you upsettttttt? do you want to slash my throat. i bet you do, because your women are not giving you a fraction as much as they are me.
and you mr violent aj, swartzfarts, au where did you manage to see any of the women ive been with in japan. in respect for their privacy i havent posted them anywhere, so there you go hatn again. i thought by now you would have either A, pull a virginia tech and or B, hurl yourself in the spinning propelors of an aircraft. like i said to both of you yellow and black losers: read it and weep. and oh oh oh, i almost forgot. did i tell you that i am happily married to one of those sixty women? of course, you guessed it, the full story is in my book, just wait 2 more months. but in the meantime
myspace.com/blackpassenger
see you there. (loser) you and violent aj are the dregs, the ugly people of your respective races. loserrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrs
matta ne, mr hello sama
blackpassenger said,
February 11, 2008 @ 22:24
and violent aj, fyi. white is not a race, neither is japanese. white is a color and japanese is a nationality. there are 3 races; Negroes, Mongoloids and Caucasians.
Killa Cam said,
February 12, 2008 @ 06:16
LOL The hate is to funny man blackpassenger i think you should stop talking to these guys man these guys are hating on you man and as of this guy “hello” i only sleep with classy bitches so stop hating on me man. Only because you can’t get none it doesn’t mean you have to hate on me. I’m dead sure you if i show pictures of the classy bitches i sleep with you would probably want to kill me so badly.
blackpassenger said,
February 12, 2008 @ 07:42
yeow, killa cam. you are right. i had stopped responding to those pathetic losers, but that mofo mr hello, wrote some sh$% about my being diseased and sleeping only with prostitutes, and spreading my disease. so i had to put him in his place and let him know that it was I who was getting diseases from japanese women and having to inform them of their stds. so when you get here, strap it up. bring your own rubbers or buy the “magnum 500″ brand here. theyre 1000 yen for a box of 12.
but chlamydia is the only thing thats rampant here, otherwise youll be safe.
ItaliajinGaKirai said,
February 12, 2008 @ 11:55
“blackpassenger”, get it straight. You hated on me just for speaking the truth first; I’m just retaliating. “hello” has exposed his distaste for Blacks in general (which is common opinion all over the world, especially in northeast asian countries).
Killa Cam, I only hate on people that get what I want when i can’t. I hate on non-Black foreigners in Japan since they get tons of girls and are treated like gods while blacks are treated like garbage (even when we try to be decent). “blackpassenger”, however, stepped over the boundaries when he decided to defend japanese despite the knowledge that the average japanese person looks at Blacks as lesser than animals. I would have no hate for him (although I would not find the lady on his myspace to be all that attractive compared to the girls that I encountered on my vacation, nor would I agree with his lifestyle 100%, but it’s not for me to judge since he really isn’t hurting anyone overtly). However, he struck at me when I had absolutely no hostility against him. I am simply retaliating.
Finally, Killa Cam, I did not mean to strike against you if it seemed that way. I only wanted to advise you, but you know what, do your thing. I don’t know if the girls that you sleep with are hot or not, but to all people that like boning ugly girls, good for you (just don’t force that crap on me since I prefer classier and better-looking Japanese females, who of course would never give the time of day to a Black person).
blackpassenger said,
February 12, 2008 @ 16:10
first of all, my myspace page has no photos of women except for my wife with her back turned. you must have super powers if you can see her face.
and let me also say this: in my 7 years of living in this country, i can tell you that most parents of women ive been with were welcoming and loving. my first 2 months in japan in 01 a woman was telling me how she wanted me to hurry up and marry her daughter and give her 3 grand children. and, and, and get this, was telling me that i wouldnt have to worry about money to raise the kids, because the family was paid. another woman during that time was taking me house shopping, telling me that her parents would buy us a house if we got married. I later met her mom and dad and they welcomed me in thier family with no hesitation. my most recent exfiance, her entire family, mom dad both sets of grand parents, aunts uncles, brother, all worshipped me. i could do no wrong. when i broke the news that i wasnt gonna marry their daughter, her mom and dad wept. inititally her dads father who was a dr in the war, opposed the wedding. but her parents asured me that theyd talk to him and make him come around. another ex-fiance’s parents were going to give us cash to start a business.
in my experience and from the experiences of my other african-american friends here, anal sphincter parents, are in the minority. my korean-japanese girlfriend who i impregnated, her parents showed me much much much love. brought tears to my eyes. her father would always tell me how he could empathize with my being african in america and in the UK, as the prejudice is similar to being korean in japan. two years ago my friend in osaka, this brother from texas, impregnated this girl and then decided to marry her. her parents bought them, no, my bad, her parents built them a house. i know many many many many nigerians married to japanese women, whose parenst kicked them down cash to start business. two of my girls parents were a$$%^&$. one girls parents said shed be ashamed if her friends knew her daughter was dating a kokujin. these parents were the equivalent of rednecks, who lived in government housing in kansai. after she told me the sentiments of her parents i left her immediately. my wife’s parents are limp phallus, and the only reason why i didnt leave her is because she had the balls to stand up to them and actually chose me over them. and once they saw that she had some balls and picked up and went to law school in the US, they started to wake up. but i dont trip on my inlaws. as long as they pay that $35grand a year for her law school, they could the grand draggon of the kkk for all i care.
i lived in the US for 20 years and i never heard of no white family buying property for their negroe son in law. i dated only white and yellow women in the US and i was never ever NEVER NEVER NEVER accepted by a white family whose daughter i was dating.
so if brothers get this much love by girls parents in japan, you cant even imagine what white dudes are gettn. because they are the ideal. you guys obiviosly had some void in your social skills, perhaps you didnt take the time and effort to learn japanese, maybe you all are unsightly and fugly like violent aj. i know brothers whove been here for 20 years and aint leaving, and they are literate, fluent in japanese, can read and write. you losers came here and didnt try to learn the language. what do you expect?
and violent aj, do us all a favor and jump in front of the n700. its the fastest bullet train now.
and you mr HELLO, or more acurately MR HERRO KITTY. your statement that there are too many blackpassengers tells me you know what time it is, you know many japanese girls have black fetishes and many more who dont, are open to exploring. and thats why youre pissed off. eat your heart out HERRO KITTY SAMA.
YOU, ITALIAGAIJINKIRAI, youre a loser too, hatn on people who can get what you want, while you cant. all of you should go commit group suicide, which is very common in japan. go rent a van and i can lend you a charcoal stove.
KILLA CAM. have you booked your ticket yet? trust me, id get on that right away.
TheTruth said,
February 13, 2008 @ 03:45
No, no no. Whites and other non-Blacks get the love, even if they are “fugly”.
For Blacks, you will be hard pressed finding a girl. Nobody really likes Blacks but Blacks. All other races have an innate hatred for us, especially northeast Asians.
I understand that White parents would not want a Black guy. Asian parents are even worse really.
I will not commit suicide. If the fact that I live angers my enemies, then good. I hate on whites, latinos, indians, arabs, etc. since they get love in japan while Blacks don’t.
Your wife’s face was on myspace or on some forum. If that was your wife, then she was hideous. You want to talk shit about me and my family, then up yours too ho.
Your story is excellent fantasy, but I am the truth, “brotha”.
TheTruth said,
February 13, 2008 @ 03:46
And it’s Italiajin ga kirai. I hate italians.
Killa Cam said,
February 13, 2008 @ 04:28
Its obvious man Schwarzefaust, violent Aj and “the truth” are probably all the same person. Instead of complaining you should try and chat up some girls you never know this might be your lucky day in japan.
anyway blackpassenger you said that I should stay away from “ghettojapulous women” why is that and what is wrong with them.
And also I haven’t booked my ticket yet but me and my friends are planning to do it at the end of this month or early next month.
TheTruth said,
February 13, 2008 @ 04:37
Oh, and most japanese would be ashamed to have a kokujin in their family.
TheTruth said,
February 13, 2008 @ 04:40
Killa Cam, yes we are the same person. I’m not trying to hide anything.
I changed my name because the powers that be are cool with overt racists (”hello”) and blatant ignorance and faerie tale (”blackpassenger”), but don’t want the sad truth to come out (me).
Killa Cam, I’d stay away from ghetto girls of any race since I’m not a ghetto-esque person. If you like them, then more power to you.
Blacks cannot chat up japanese girls. Take my advise: give up. Northeast asians want nothing to do with you. They won’t lynch you (in japan at least) but they won’t want anything to do with you for the most part.
blackpassenger said,
February 13, 2008 @ 09:07
yo cam, hit me on myspace dude, steve urkle and his alter ego and the other loser are wasting my time. or hit me on facebook.
rock said,
February 23, 2008 @ 10:36
I’ve lived in japan 2 years. had over 40 women. The japanese women love black guys. most white guys i know just wont embrace them or are scared of them for some reason. If any one any race trys to get a japanese woman, they will go for it. Most are sex crazed freaks its like genetic or something. every last one of them sucked my dick too. I love japan and when i finish college i plan to live there and maybe after 100 more women, i will marry one of them and let their parents buy me a house. I was engaged out there to a woman from fukui. her parents loved me. and as far as this marriage shit goes, every japanese womans dream is to get married and if you give them that they will do any thing in the world for you. thier culture is also subservient to men. so they will do anything for you. my exfiance used to massage and walk on my back every night, clip my toenails and do everything. if like for a special day or i just wanna make her smile, ill wash the dishes and watch some football. once she sees i washed the dishes, she’ll start suckin some dik. most girls enjoy cumm in their mouths and all that shit. if you go to japan and aren’t gettin nothin, you are a loser.
FactualKokujin said,
February 23, 2008 @ 12:03
Rock, you’re wrong. To Japanese, and to most of the world, Black is inferior, animalistic, and garbage. They have no respect for us at all, but they love Whites, pakis, latinos, and all other non-Black gaijin.
Japanese girls (for the most part, not all) are pretty sexual, but they won’t give it up that easily to a Black person. Non-Black gaijin can get in easily though.
Rock, if you marry a japanese woman, her parents will cetainly disown her. You have to learn to accept it.
Maybe in the future, if we are lucky, they will bring back segregation so that our Black children will not have to endure the pain of living amongst other races.
blackpassenger said,
February 24, 2008 @ 21:24
VIOLENT AJ, just how many aliases to you have? Now you are FACTUALKOKUJIN? DUDE, PLEASE PLEASE, I BEG OF YOU, TIE A ROPE AROUND YOUR NECK, TIE THE END OF THE ROPE AROUND A BIG TREE, THEN GET IN YOUR CAR, PUT ON THE SEATBELT, START THE CAR AND PUT IT IN DRIVE. THEN STOMP ON THE GAS, so we all can watch your head roll. some guy did exactly that in nagoya last summer. please, immitate him. You heard the ROCK, “if you come to japan and cant get laid daily by different women, you are a LOSER.”
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cindy said,
March 5, 2008 @ 07:33
butt ugly white men are lazy when they have japanese women.japanese women have no problem with black people.whites who say this are so 80’s.white men are getting lazy and japanese women are saying no thank you.japanese peole are not afraid of black people.some whites are still afraid of blacks why? how some whites cant stand on their own 2 feets when hating others always need japanese people to help in hating ” I know some japanese say some whites are ugly too.